Welcome to The Mindful Educator Podcast with Victoria R your go-to space for exploring mindset, education, mum life, mindfulness, health, and more. Whether you’re seeking calm amidst the chaos or bold strategies for transformative shifts, this podcast offers personal wisdom, practical advice, and inspiring conversations to help you build a more balanced, fulfilling life.
As a mum, teacher, mindfulness coach, multi-business owner, and city-turned-country girl, Victoria shares lessons she wishes she’d known sooner while guiding you on a journey of personal growth and meaningful change. Join her and other remarkable women as they share stories, insights, and actionable practices to empower your most intentional way of living.
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Welcome to The Mindful Educator Podcast with Victoria R your go-to space for exploring mindset, education, mum life, mindfulness, health, and more. Whether you’re seeking calm amidst the chaos or bold strategies for transformative shifts, this podcast offers personal wisdom, practical advice, and inspiring conversations to help you build a more balanced, fulfilling life.
As a mum, teacher, mindfulness coach, multi-business owner, and city-turned-country girl, Victoria shares lessons she wishes she’d known sooner while guiding you on a journey of personal growth and meaningful change. Join her and other remarkable women as they share stories, insights, and actionable practices to empower your most intentional way of living.
24. The One About Reclaiming Your Body, Boundaries & Better Sex (with Ruby Josif)
The Mindful Educator
41 minutes
1 week ago
24. The One About Reclaiming Your Body, Boundaries & Better Sex (with Ruby Josif)
Somatic sexologist and coach Ruby Josif joins me for a grounded, empowering chat on coming back to your body, redefining "good sex," and raising tweens/teens with consent, language, and self-trust. We dig into nervous-system safety, shame, intimacy after kids, and how to actually start the conversation with your partner-vulnerably, not defensively.
What we cover
* Ruby's mission: confidence, pleasure, and authentic expression—inside the bedroom and out
* Why needs, desires, and boundaries underpin satisfying intimacy
* Getting back into your body: tiny, safe somatic practices (outside the bedroom first)
* Nervous-system basics: moving from "fight/flight" to "rest/digest"
* Active presence for busy mums: walking, touch, self-massage, dance
* Talking to kids: correct anatomical language, everyday consent, being a safe parent
* Spotting shame: hiding, shutdown, judgment of others, the "gripping" in your body
* Redefining "good sex": less goal/organism-chasing, more connection & nourishment
* From "obligatory sex" to desire: expanding what intimacy can look like
* Couples communication: lead with vulnerability & curiosity, not resentment
* Taking responsibility for your pleasure (and why partners aren't mind-readers)
* How to work with Ruby: mentorship, focus sessions, therapeutic yoni massage (WA)
Key takeaways
* Start outside the bedroom: build safety and presence in small moments.
* If sex feels like a chore, widen the definition of intimacy and follow what nourishes you.
* Teach kids correct words and everyday consent early—make yourself the safe person.
* Desire grows when experiences feel good for you; obligatory sex erodes it.
* Lead tough talks with "I feel/I need/I'm desiring…" and genuine curiosity.
Try this (listener micro-practice)
When you park the car (or make tea), place both hands on your body, take three slow breaths, and ask: "What sensation is here? What do I need right now?" Thirty seconds. Daily.
Connect
Guest: Ruby Josif - somatic sexologist & coach (based in WA; mentorships, focus sessions, therapeutic yoni massage).
* https://www.ruby-josif.com/
* https://www.instagram.com/ruby.josif.sex.coach/
Host: Victoria R — The Mindful Educator: mindset, mindfulness, education & mum life.
* https://www.victoria-r.com.au
* hello@victoria-r.com.au
* @the.victoria.r
The Mindful Educator
Welcome to The Mindful Educator Podcast with Victoria R your go-to space for exploring mindset, education, mum life, mindfulness, health, and more. Whether you’re seeking calm amidst the chaos or bold strategies for transformative shifts, this podcast offers personal wisdom, practical advice, and inspiring conversations to help you build a more balanced, fulfilling life.
As a mum, teacher, mindfulness coach, multi-business owner, and city-turned-country girl, Victoria shares lessons she wishes she’d known sooner while guiding you on a journey of personal growth and meaningful change. Join her and other remarkable women as they share stories, insights, and actionable practices to empower your most intentional way of living.
