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The Men’s Collective Podcast explores what it means to live as a grounded, purpose-driven, emotionally aware man in today’s world. Hosted by Travis Goodman, LMFT—Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Mind+Body Coach. Each episode dives into the real work of becoming a man who is calm under pressure, connected in relationships, and clear on purpose.
Through honest conversations, neuroscience-backed practices, and stories from men doing the work, you’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, lead with authenticity, and build strength that’s both grounded and compassionate.
Whether you’re a high-performing dad, a man in transition, or simply ready to live with more meaning, The Men’s Collective is your space to reconnect to yourself, your purpose, and your people.
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Being vs Doing: Why Men Need Affirmation for Who They Are
The Men's Collective
13 minutes
1 month ago
Being vs Doing: Why Men Need Affirmation for Who They Are
In this episode of The Men's Collective Podcast, we unpack the difference between being vs. doing—and why most men are praised for achievement, performance, and success instead of who they truly are. Travis explores how this performance-based identity can lead to shame, loneliness, and disconnection, and shares research (including Brene Brown) plus real coaching insights to show why affirming character and core values builds stronger confidence and connection.
What You'll Learn:
- Being vs. Doing: Why most men are praised for achievements instead of character
- Performance-Based Identity: How tying self-worth to success leads to shame, loneliness, and burnout
- Masculinity & Mental Health: Research on traditional masculinity norms and their impact on connection
- Affirmations That Matter: Why affirming compassion, resilience, and courage builds lasting confidence
- Practical Challenge: Write & share three affirmations about who you are—and three for people you love
- Real-Life Stories & Research: Insights from Brene Brown, Therese Norden, and coaching work with men
Challenge for the Week: Write three affirmations you'd love someone to say about your character—and share three affirmations with people close to you. Notice how it shifts your connection.
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The Men's Collective
The Men’s Collective Podcast explores what it means to live as a grounded, purpose-driven, emotionally aware man in today’s world. Hosted by Travis Goodman, LMFT—Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Mind+Body Coach. Each episode dives into the real work of becoming a man who is calm under pressure, connected in relationships, and clear on purpose.
Through honest conversations, neuroscience-backed practices, and stories from men doing the work, you’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, lead with authenticity, and build strength that’s both grounded and compassionate.
Whether you’re a high-performing dad, a man in transition, or simply ready to live with more meaning, The Men’s Collective is your space to reconnect to yourself, your purpose, and your people.
Where purpose meets practice. Where men learn to feel, lead, and live fully.
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