In this eye-opening and heartfelt episode, Tiana Zhang, co-founder of My Mindful Match and co-host of the Deconstructing Dating podcast, breaks down the myths of modern dating. She shares how true connection begins with deep self-awareness, realistic expectations, and intentional action—not swiping endlessly or chasing “perfect” partners.
With decades of experience in hospice care and human relationships, Tiana brings unmatched insight into love, loss, growth, and what truly sustains long-term relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or rebuilding your love life, this conversation will shift your perspective and help you attract the partner you deserve by becoming the partner you seek.
🎯 Key Takeaways
00:00 – Why you can only attract people as emotionally healthy as you are
01:16 – Maladaptive dating patterns and how to break them
04:22 – Why successful young men are hiring matchmakers
06:12 – Dating apps: “Amazon for humans” and why they’re failing us
09:03 – Relationships fail when one partner stops growing
11:17 – Vision + Plan + Action… and feedback: the transformation equation
14:31 – “Speak it aloud”—the power of intentionality in finding love
17:35 – When your “deal breakers” are just “preferences” in disguise
20:18 – The evolving landscape of modern women and masculine energy
25:04 – How your relationship impacts every other area of your life
28:38 – Setting goals that actually align with your time and values
32:40 – Why My Mindful Match is disrupting traditional matchmaking
36:07 – Tiana’s most profound insight from 20 years in hospice
39:49 – Verbalizing needs and expectations in a relationship
42:42 – Communication is everything—in business and in love
48:26 – Vision boards are not enough—what are you actually doing?
50:22 – Being “too picky” may be costing you the love of your life
53:13 – Be bold: Rejection doesn’t define you, in dating or business
59:18 – You create your reality. Don’t let false beliefs run your life
01:03:34 – You don’t need to fit in the room—own the room
“You can want a partner all day long—but what are you doing to become one?” - Tiana Zhang
If this episode helped you rethink your approach to love, relationships, or your own growth, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Love starts with truth, intention, and the courage to try again.
🔗 Connect with Tiana Zhang
Website: mymindfulmatch.com
Instagram: @my_mindfulmatch
Podcast: Deconstructing Dating: Debunking the Myths of Courtship
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