Modern dating is more confusing than ever — ghosting, delusional standards, fear of vulnerability, and unrealistic expectations dominate the landscape. But what if the biggest roadblocks to love are actually within ourselves?
In this heartfelt, enlightening conversation, we’re joined by Marnie Zang, professional matchmaker, psychotherapist, and co-founder of My Mindful Match, to break down the real reasons why people struggle to find and keep love. If you want healthy, grounded, lasting relationships, this is a must-watch.
🕒 Timestamps & Key Moments:
00:00 – Why Men Aren’t Dating Anymore: Trauma, avoidance, and the cost of vulnerability
01:42 – The Role of Time in Healing Trust
03:22 – It’s Not Your Fault, But It’s Your Responsibility
05:15 – Do Dating Apps Destroy Connection?
07:22 – Why Value-Based Dating Is a Game-Changer
09:37 – Delusional Standards & Matchmaking Reality Checks11:11 – Fantasy Thinking: How People Fall for an Illusion
12:51 – Love Addiction, Core Beliefs & Dating Dysfunction
13:56 – CBT: Your Thoughts Create Your Relationship
15:23 – Confirmation Bias & The Problem with Negativity
18:46 – The Values Exercise That Changes Everything
23:09 – Define Your Terms or Argue Forever
29:25 – Boundaries Should Be Silent — Here’s Why
31:18 – Work-life balance vs. work-life harmony
33:14 – How healthy love affects every part of your life
34:47 – Polarized roles in a relationship: help or hurt?
35:51 – Why do so many couples break up over money?
38:47 – View your relationship as a living, breathing entity
40:08 – The Four Horsemen: The most significant predictors of divorce41:27 – Never argue when alcohol is involved
42:04 – Words hurt — and you can’t un-hear them
42:34 – Where to follow Marnie Zang and My Mindful Match
“You always prove yourself right — whether it’s negative or positive.” - Marnie Zang
Connect with Marnie
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marnie85253 & https://www.instagram.com/my_mindfulmatch
Website: https://mymindfulmatch.com
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