Episode 101: What if people pleasing isn't a personality flaw, but a nervous system response you developed to feel safe? In this transformative conversation, Amanda welcomes back fan-favorite guest Ash Cebulka to explore the deep roots of people pleasing patterns and how to finally break free.
Ash, a transformation guide and PSYCH-K practitioner, explains how people pleasing behaviors are programmed in our subconscious mind between ages 0-7, and why traditional willpower often fails to create lasting change. Together, they dive into human design, the difference between emotional and non-emotional beings, and practical techniques for rewiring limiting beliefs. This episode offers hope and concrete tools for anyone who's tired of abandoning themselves to make others comfortable. You'll learn why your body defaults to people pleasing, how to recognize when you're operating from oldpatterns, and specific strategies to create new neural pathways that support your authentic self.
Perfect for: Anyone struggling with boundaries, parents wanting to raise confident children, and anyone ready to stop giving their energy away to others.
Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction & Amanda's Life Updates
05:19 - Letting Go of What Others Think
08:29 - Understanding Your Human Design Type
18:30 - Childhood Trauma and Self-Worth Connection
24:39 - How to Rewire Subconscious Beliefs with PSYCH-K
30:08 - Nervous System Regulation Techniques
40:58 - Real Examples of People Pleasing Behaviors
50:45 - Teaching Children About Healthy Boundaries
59:46 - Final Thoughts on Self-Love and Acceptance
Connect with Ash Cebulka:
Website: ashcebulka.com
Instagram: @ashcebulka
Services: One-on-one coaching, PSYCH-K sessions, private retreats, and group retreats
Upcoming Events: St. Barts retreat (November 2025), Italy retreat (2026)
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