Content Warning: This episode discusses fear play, trauma responses, and both physical and psychological scare tactics that may be unsettling or triggering. Viewer discretion is advised. If you're not in a mental state to handle this content, please prioritize your well-being and join us later.
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Episode Summary: Mx Dizzy (they/them) and Marquis Pup Rekkr (he/they) talk with Master Devyn Stone (he/him), known as Sir Horror, a recurring guest on The Kinky Tavern Podcast. Devyn is a fear play educator, horror enthusiast, and prop collector who shares his extensive experience exploring the psychology and theatricality of fear within BDSM. He emphasizes that fear play is versatile and accessible, capable of being incorporated into any scene or dynamic without extremes or taboos.
We discuss the importance of consent, negotiation, boundaries, safe signals, and debriefs to mitigate risk and build trust, especially in fear play. Devyn explores the significance of headspace, mental triggers, and physical props like masks, fake weapons, and stage blood to evoke genuine fear while maintaining some semblance of safety. He highlights creativity, resourcefulness, and understanding personal responses as key to effective fear play, which combines psychological and physical skills to foster deep connections and excitement.
Devyn offers practical advice on sourcing props, building trust, and managing risks, emphasizing the importance of compatibility, consent, and preparation. He shares personal stories about his relationship with his property Guan-Xuan and how they incorporate fear into daily life and BDSM dynamics. Devyn advocates for ongoing education, resourcefulness, and community connections (such as local haunt shops and small businesses). The episode wraps up with a playful discussion on props, horror conventions, and embracing darker, more primal aspects of oneself in a consensual way. Listeners are encouraged to explore fear with imagination, care, and respect.
Guest Links and Episode Resources (not an endorsement or review):
Devyn’s links
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New Rule FX - newrulefx.com
Magic Etc & Ft Worth Costume - https://www.mtpsales.com/
Reinke Bros - https://www.reinkebrothers.com/
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