In this conversation, Justina explores the complexities of desire, acceptance, and the emotional journey of navigating what we want versus what we have.

She emphasizes the importance of slowing down, grieving unmet desires, and recognizing the power in acceptance. Through understanding the stages of grief and the difference between grief and rumination, Justina encourages listeners to focus on what they can control and to embrace their unique journeys.

Takeaways

• The answer to our desires often lies in understanding our resistance.
• Bypassing discomfort can lead to cognitive distortions.
• Success is a personal definition and can take many forms.
• Slowing down allows us to recognize misalignment in our lives.
• Grieving unmet desires is a natural and necessary process.
• Acceptance of what we cannot control opens up new possibilities.
• Rumination keeps us stuck, while grief allows for healing.
• We must focus on what we can control to regain our power.
• Our journeys are unique, and we should honor that.
• Letting go of attachment to outcomes can lead to greater fulfillment.

• Navigating Desire and Acceptance
• The Journey of Grief and Growth

• "What if it was simply with being?"
• "Your journey is unique to you."
• "I trust that what is for me will come."

Sound BitesChapters

00:00Understanding the Desire for Change

01:43The Importance of Slowing Down

03:39Navigating Powerlessness and Acceptance

05:25Grieving vs. Rumination

07:24The Stages of Grief09:12Letting Go of Control

10:30Opening Up to Possibility

12:35Finding Your Unique Path

14:43Embracing the Human Experience17:07The Illusion of Certainty

18:52Choosing Acceptance and Trust

Episode Summary:In this episode, Justina talks about the messy middle—when life feels hard and uncomfortable even as you’re doing “the work.” She explores the illusion that things will feel easier once something outside of us changes—more clients, a better relationship, a new job—and reminds us that ease isn’t the goal; self-trust and consistency are.

Through stories about misaligned clients, business challenges, and the temptation to stay in comfortable misery, Justina unpacks what it means to choose discomfort that leads to growth over comfort that keeps you small. This episode will call you higher: to stop waiting for the right feeling and start doing the thing that aligns with the woman you’re becoming.

KEY MOMENTS:

00:00 – 03:00 | When Life Feels Hard
Justina opens up about the illusion that happiness begins once something external changes — a new job, relationship, or success milestone. She normalizes the duality of life’s ups and downs.

03:00 – 06:30 | The Difference Between Successful and Unsuccessful People
Drawing from Jesse Itzler’s quote, she explores how success isn’t about wanting to do the thing — it’s about doing it anyway.

06:30 – 12:00 | The Trap of Comfortable Misery
She shares a story about taking on a misaligned client for comfort and stability, revealing the hidden payoff of staying in draining situations that feel “safe.”

12:00 – 18:00 | Labels That Keep You Small
How identifying as “the sensitive one,” “the overthinker,” or “the introvert” can become another comfort zone that limits your growth.

18:00 – 24:00 | Redefining Success & Legacy
Reflections on Alex Hormozi’s take on legacy versus change — what it means to build a life and impact you’re proud of now, not someday.

24:00 – 28:00 | The Pursuit of Peace Over Happiness
Why happiness is fleeting but peace — or contentment — is sustainable when you accept both the good and the hard as part of being human.

28:00 – 31:00 | Closing Reflections: Becoming the Woman You’re Proud Of
Justina closes with a powerful reminder to keep taking steps toward your vision — not waiting to “feel like it,” but walking in alignment with your proudest self.

You’ll Learn:

• Why hard seasons don’t mean you’re off track

• The hidden payoff of staying in misaligned situations

• How to recognize when comfort is really fear in disguise

• What happens when you stop over-identifying with labels like “highly sensitive” or “overthinker”

• How to build a life you’re proud of—even when it’s uncomfortable

Key Quotes:

“Sometimes comfort is staying in the dynamic that’s hurting you—because it’s familiar.”
“Do the thing you don’t feel like doing when it aligns with the life you say you want.”
“Peace isn’t found in everything being good; it’s found in accepting that both good and hard exist.”
“I’m not chasing happiness—I’m walking as the version of me I’m proud of.”

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In this conversation, Justina shares her personal weight loss journey, detailing the lifestyle changes and mindset shifts that helped her lose 30 pounds.

She emphasizes the importance of tracking daily actions rather than just focusing on the scale, the significance of enjoying the process, and the role of emotional awareness in making healthier choices.

Justina also discusses the necessity of self-compassion and resilience in overcoming setbacks and achieving long-term goals.

Takeaways

• I lost 30 pounds since January.
• Focus on daily actions, not just the overall weight.
• Make daily actions enjoyable to stay motivated.
• Surround yourself with supportive environments.
• Sign up for events that hold you accountable.
• Be kind to yourself during the journey.
• Resilience is key to bouncing back from setbacks.
• Focus on how food makes you feel after eating.
• Do one thing at a time to avoid overwhelm.
• Emotional awareness helps in making better choices.

Chapters

00:00 Justina's Weight Loss Journey

11:27 Mindset and Daily Actions for Success

23:12 Emotional Awareness and Self-Compassion

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This episode explores the concept of detachment and how others' behaviors are reflections of their own experiences, not a reflection of you. Justina discusses the importance of understanding personal coding, regulating emotions, and maintaining authenticity in relationships.

detachment, personal coding, emotional regulation, authenticity, relationships

• Other people's reactions are about their own internal experiences.
• Your authentic expression may not always be accepted by others.
• Everyone has unique coding shaped by their experiences and beliefs.
• Regulating your emotions is key to maintaining authenticity.
• Detachment involves understanding that others' responses are not about you.
• Boundaries are essential in maintaining personal responsibility.
• Practicing detachment helps in dealing with others' discomfort.
• Breathing techniques can help in emotional regulation.
• Being present and aware helps in managing stress responses.
• Empathy for others' experiences without compromising your values is crucial.

• Detachment: It's Not About You
• Understanding Personal Coding
• Emotional Regulation and Authenticity
• Navigating Relationships with Detachment
• The Power of Emotional Regulation
• Boundaries and Personal Responsibility
• Practicing Detachment in Daily Life
• Breathing Techniques for Emotional Balance
• Empathy Without Compromise
• Authenticity in the Face of Discomfort

Other people's reactions aren't about you. Your expression may not be accepted. Everyone has unique coding. Regulate emotions to stay authentic. Detachment: others' responses aren't about you. Boundaries maintain personal responsibility. Practice detachment with others' discomfort. Breathing aids emotional regulation. Presence helps manage stress. Empathy without compromising values.

• 00:00:00 Introduction to Detachment
• 00:00:00 Understanding Personal Coding
• 00:00:00 Emotional Regulation Techniques
• 00:00:00 Maintaining Authenticity in Relationships
• 00:00:00 Empathy and Boundaries

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What is your bounce back rate? Listen for a quick episode that it will encourage you if you’re facing a challenge today.

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 Justina discusses the challenges of feeling busy and overwhelmed, emphasizing the importance of multiplying one's capacity. She highlights the concept of over-delivering and stresses that one's job is to lead, not to carry everything alone.

Chapters:

• 00:00:27 Introduction to Over-Delivering
• 00:00:50 The Role of Delegation and Collaboration
• 00:01:57 Leading Without Carrying It All

Takeaways:

• Feeling busy and overwhelmed can be a sign of over-delivering.
• Delegation and collaboration are key to multiplying capacity.
• Support from others is crucial in managing responsibilities.
• Your job is to lead, not to carry everything alone.
• Over-functioning in relationships and work can lead to resentment.
• It's important to recognize when you're over-functioning.
• Expanding capacity requires support and delegation.
• Leading effectively means knowing when to delegate.
• Collaboration enhances productivity and reduces stress.
• Support systems are essential for sustainable leadership.

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You're One Decision Away From A Completely Different Life [231]

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Join Justina in this empowering episode as she explores the significance of setting personal boundaries and aligning actions with your core values. Learn how to break free from self-blame and judgment cycles to live a more authentic life.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction: The importance of boundaries

[05:15] Understanding self-blame and judgment [12:30] The power of aligning actions with values [20:45] Identifying and setting personal boundaries

[30:00] Taking aligned action: Practical steps [40:00] Conclusion: Embracing your authentic self

Key Takeaways:

• Discover how to untangle patterns of self-blame and judgment.
• Learn to take ownership of your life choices.
• Explore Justina's five-step framework for setting boundaries and aligning actions with values.

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In this episode, Justina discusses the importance of seeking inner validation rather than relying on external sources to cope with difficult emotions.

She emphasizes that emotions are a form of communication from the body and that they should be felt and acknowledged rather than fixed or analyzed.

By allowing ourselves to fully experience our emotions, we can tap into deeper truths and insights that reside within us, leading to better emotional health and self-awareness.

Chapters

00:00 The Quest for Inner Validation

08:14 Understanding Emotions as Body Language

11:52 The Power of Allowing Emotions to Exist

• If you seek outer validation, you're missing out on inner truth.
• Difficult emotions often just need to be felt, not fixed.
• Emotions are the body's language, communicating deeper truths.
• Resisting emotions leads to rumination and more discomfort.
• Labeling emotions can help in processing them effectively.
• Allowing emotions to exist is crucial for emotional health.
• Talking about problems may not lead to solutions.
• Your subconscious holds answers that your conscious mind may not access.
• Emotional reactions are invitations to listen to your body.
• Compassion towards your emotions fosters healing.

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🎙️ Show Notes: Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Stuck

Have you ever caught yourself over-explaining—hoping that if someone just understood your story, they’d finally like you, respect you, or treat you better? In this episode, I share how this pattern has shown up in my own life—from everyday microaggressions to over-functioning at work and in relationships—and the deep shift I’ve made to reclaim my energy and self-respect.

We explore the unrealistic expectations that keep so many women stuck:

• Believing that if others finally understood your pain, they’d change.

• Taking on someone else’s load in hopes they’ll one day carry yours.

• Trying to fix toxic environments instead of walking away.

• Over-explaining your worth and boundaries to earn approval.

The truth is, their reactions are about their coding—not your worth. When you stop personalizing their judgments and start honoring your own standards, you step out of over-functioning and into alignment.

This quick episode is a reminder that you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Respect yourself enough to stop abandoning your own needs, start honoring your limits, and take action that aligns with the life and woman you’re becoming.

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why over-explaining keeps you disempowered

• The trap of trying to change people who aren’t willing to change

• How over-functioning at work and in relationships erodes self-respect

• The powerful shift into alignment, standards, and self-responsibility

Listen if you’re ready to shift out of overthinking and over consuming and into alignment and action with your goals and dreams and the life that you want to create.

226. Building Self Respect vs Self Abandonment

Quick Release Feeling Stuck + Afraid - How to Take Action Anyway!

This episode explores why we get hooked on proving our point, the hidden brain chemistry that makes arguments addictive, and how the cycle of needing to be “right” drains your energy and disconnects you from what actually matters. You’ll learn how to pause, protect your peace, and choose connection—or clear boundaries—over endless battles, whether in relationships you want to mend or ones that are manipulative and harmful.

Fix Resentment, Burnout & Over-functioning With Boundaries: At The Edge of Your Authenticity

If you are not uncomfortable, then you are not on the journey to your next level self

The three mindset shifts that help me to achieve my goals step out and try new things

You already know what you want. But when fear, pressure, and outside opinions pile up, it’s easy to override your inner voice and stay stuck in misaligned choices. In this episode, I share how we’re conditioned to believe the loudest voice in the room—and how to come back to your own. You’ll learn how to separate projection from intuition, question what you’ve been taught to believe, and build the self-trust you need to make bold, aligned decisions in your work, relationships, and life.

In this episode, I talk about a real Time struggle, the shame, the guilt, and all the things that come with the stretch and stepping into our next level and the antidote to that and living doesn’t require perfection. Listen to hear what thriving in life require requires instead.