It has been about 3 or 4 years now that I was exposed to the term  “servant-leadership,” It was put in the context that men are to be like  Christ in laying down His life for the Church. That man would need to  “lay down their life for their wives .”And while I agree that if an  intruder was entering my house to cause harm, my husband would indeed  lay down his life for me, I know this. And I am sure most wives would be  sure of the same. (except maybe for John Piper. Another blog post for  that one)

But that is not the context that these women were using. “Lay down  their lives for their wives .”They were using it in the context that a  husband should do whatever his wife needs to be happy. He is supposed to  sacrifice “everything” for his wife, even his leadership. That male  headship was archaic and needed to be smashed, “the patriarchy .”That a  real man empathized with his wife, sacrificed his health, wealth, and  manhood to accommodate his wife. What if that wife was not happy or  lacking? That was the failure of her “servant-leader.”