It has been about 3 or 4 years now that I was exposed to the term  “servant-leadership,” It was put in the context that men are to be like  Christ in laying down His life for the Church. That man would need to  “lay down their life for their wives .”And while I agree that if an  intruder was entering my house to cause harm, my husband would indeed  lay down his life for me, I know this. And I am sure most wives would be  sure of the same. (except maybe for John Piper. Another blog post for  that one)

But that is not the context that these women were using. “Lay down  their lives for their wives .”They were using it in the context that a  husband should do whatever his wife needs to be happy. He is supposed to  sacrifice “everything” for his wife, even his leadership. That male  headship was archaic and needed to be smashed, “the patriarchy .”That a  real man empathized with his wife, sacrificed his health, wealth, and  manhood to accommodate his wife. What if that wife was not happy or  lacking? That was the failure of her “servant-leader.”

This will be a 10 Part Series highlighting the 10 Marks of a Godly Wife.

Learning, growing and being a teachable wife is such is the case with a godly wife. We will want to put others first, as Christ put others first as he sacrificed on the Cross, to take the Wrath from the Father that we deserved. 

Your children want you, mamas. They don't need "stuff." They need their mama. The security, love, and nurturing that only a mama can give, is needed and commanded by scripture. Your bodily presence is what God has intended. God intended for mamas to nurse their babies, to be the provider of their babies. To thrive, they need you. You are your child’s actual lifeline

We Cannot afford to not be a Keeper of the Home.

Titus 2:4-5

So much of  contemporary Ladies bible studies is without the focus of our “places”, our “roles” as women, helpmeets.Even single women. We are women, and God has designed us and our role, according to His design. Women’s bible studies today operate as free agents, outside of their high calling as woman, wife, mother, sister, and daughter. That’s why I refer to most “women’s bible studies” as mostly being more masculine. They are conducted, detached from their womanhood.

The Feminist Doctrine of "Mutual Submission"

Mutual submission seems like such a nice and “fair” term. Who doesn’t want to be fair? Fair means equality, right. It means everyone is going to be doing and saying the same thing.

But, we often forget in our feminist world, and in our churches, that God is not a feminist. God cares not about ‘fair” or “equality”. God does not want nor  need the approval of a sinful culture. On the contrary, the sinful culture will answer for not fearing ,nor obeying God and His Word.

Psalm 127

Unless the LORD builds the house,
those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the LORD watches over the city,
the watchman stays awake in vain.
It is in vain that you rise up early
and go late to rest,
eating the bread of anxious toil;
for he gives to his beloved sleep.

Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
are the children of one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
when he speaks with his enemies in the gate

Men and women, left to their own devices do whatever is right in their own eyes. Here we are in our time where the current state of affairs is confusion on gender, marriage and family. The world has determined that God’s order is of no consequence. We have been walking in this path that has brought us to this cliff. As we stand at the edge, we look back and see that many in the Church have joined the world in eroding biblical clarity and authority.

The Church has lost its voice in the culture as well as in the church. Much of the Church has surrendered significant ground on marriage and gender. They have compromised on what Scripture actually says. In part it has been a subtle effort, to soften what God has said, to appease a culture that is saturated in Feminism and Gender confusion.

The Church is lacking courage to speak boldly even when the church may even hold to a biblical stance. Not wanting to offend a congregation that is becoming more and more like the world. So most tend to avoid the topic all together. Avoided like the plague by Pastors, because Church leaders have failed to biblically counsel and abdicating to worldly psychology. Instead of applying the Word of God, they punt the issues to secular institutions that cannot answer these questions biblically. In doing so the Church begins to think, not scripturally on these issues, but as the cultural does.

Not because at any minute, I believe I may just turn around and head down the broad path, Oh dear, no. It’s hard, and at the same time I know I can give up, but God will be there. He will hold me, sustain me, and make me battle ready, again. I cannot leave him.  I can assure you, He has quite a firm grip on me. Body and soul. When I am down, sorrowful and my eyes cannot help but continually fill with tears, there is no “giving up”.

It’s shocking really, we see someone that micromanages her husband, day in and day out. Her husband may not make a decision without her, unless she agrees with said decision. The husband is not valued or loved. He is an object of bitterness and wrath. All decisions must be approved by her, or accusations of manipulation and lies, will soon follow.The husband takes upon the submissive role as he is ruled over by the wife. He must often, work out of the home, and work hard inside the home. Alpha wives, many times, insist on being served and rarely, serve.

In our current climate of the #Metoo movement we see a kind of deifying of women. What do I mean? Well, the very premise of the #MeToo movement is to #BelieveALLWomen. Believe all women. No matter the accusation. Women do not lie. Women are pure, men are evil. Women can do no wrong. Men do everything wrong. Men must repent to women, for oppression, and  for being men, That’s sounds like deifying women to me.

Can your husband trust you with his heart? Have you betrayed your husband’s heart? It is so very important to a godly marriage, and I cannot stress it enough, that your husband be able to know his heart is safe with you, his wife. His help meet. You should  be your husbands most trusted confidant, lover and friend.

Proverbs tells us that a man that has a wife, that he can trust his heart with, will be a man that will lack no gain. That means he will have a secure and trusted homefront, unencumbered and undisturbed by those that would seek to attack or demean him. That the husband is secure. That, what goes on in his home and his marriage, is a bond that is not shared with anyone. Not in-laws, friends or foes. Not with anyone. This is a husband that can trust his wife to never do him any harm, all the days of his lif