In this episode, I dive into the complexities of affair dynamics, specifically why comparing an affair partner to a spouse can be an instant turn-off. She unpacks the importance of treating an affair as a unique, respectful connection—one that benefits from its own boundaries and an absence of "spouse talk." Episode Highlights: The Downside of Comparisons: Why comparing your AP to your spouse objectifies her and kills the mood. Respect and Boundaries: Setting a "no-spouse-talk" rule to maintain emotional distance and enjoyment. James Bond, Not Homer Simpson: How to embody an idealized partner without reminders of married life. Toxic Bonding: Avoiding negative venting that can bring down the affair's positivity. Key Takeaways: Respect Matters: Negative comparisons disrespect all parties involved. Set Boundaries Early: Keep spouse talk out of the affair for a healthier connection. "In an affair, be James Bond, not Homer Simpson." Listen in to discover how respecting boundaries can keep your affair fresh and engaging! Follow Teresa on Substack! Get a free pdf copy of my ebook — How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress — by joining my list! Third-party link to ⇨ MY EMAIL LIST! Become an Ashley Madison insider: The Complete Ashley Madison User's Guide Get you ChatGPT custom Ashley Madison message writer: Teresa's Ashley Madison Icebreaker Tool 🎧 Subscribe to The How to Cheat Podcast & The Teresa Pod for more on married dating!