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Why can’t you relax even when everything’s fine? Like — you should be enjoying that quiet weekend, but instead you’re restless, anxious, scrolling endlessly, or totally collapsed… and then Monday hits and you feel like you didn’t enjoy a second of it.

In this episode, we unpack why that happens. I’ll walk you through three common scenarios: maybe you grew up in a home where rest was basically punished, or you had a stressed-out parent who couldn’t tolerate stillness, or your nervous system just learned that being on high alert is “normal.”

And honestly — none of that means you’re broken.

We’ll talk about what your nervous system is actually doing, why this experience is way more common than people realize, and most importantly… what to do about it. I’ll share some simple, body-first practices you can try this weekend — starting with tuning into your felt sense and learning how to pendulate gently between activity and rest so your body can re-learn that stillness is safe.

So if you’ve ever wondered “why can’t I relax when I want to?” — this one’s for you.

Discussing things like: why can’t I relax, trauma and relaxation, nervous system healing, felt sense, pendulation, somatic practices