‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
Only Appreciation and No Criticism or Only Criticism and No Appreciation can make Jack a Narcissist
Today many motive speakers say you don’t bother about what others say.  Many follow that and reject what others say about you. Today’s parents learned to give appreciation to their child and not criticism, not even genuine feedback. If you only give appreciation and never listen to criticism, you will be developing a narcissistic personality disorder. If you avoid criticism, you reject the opportunity for a self-evaluation which is a key element in forming your self-esteem.  Only appreciation leads to high self-importance and arrogance.  You need to develop strong self-confidence and self-esteem. To develop high self-confidence and self-esteem, you should accept and manage appreciation, feedback, and criticism well.
Let us take an example of a veggie packet you bought.  When you open it, if the entire content is rotten, you throw it into the bin. You may feel upset, but you don’t dwell on it. If it is not entirely rotten, you will take the good ones out and throw the rotten ones.  Criticism must be handled in the same way. When you receive criticism, check for what can be useful for you to change or improve life. Throw the rest to the dustbin.  Never take any rotten criticisms and once thrown out, never be bothered about it. When you know that a particular shop sells spoiled veggies, you never buy from them. Similarly, if you know that certain people only give you spoiled or rotten feedback, stay away from them.
It is essential to listen to criticisms, feedback and appreciation to shape your character and personality in the best way possible. Never ignore criticism and it is criticism that helps you understand your hidden talents and abilities than appreciation.  Many parents and gurus have succeeded in creating gem-like personalities by helping their disciples to handle criticism, feedback and appreciation in the right way.
Parents and teachers should train the kids to accept and handle criticism, feedbacks and appreciation as key life skills. Never make your child appreciation and validation focused as it can create an unhealthy ego, self-importance, arrogance and narcissistic personality disorders.  Only criticism and no appreciation can create low self-confidence, low self-esteem and narcissistic personality disorder. Parents should learn how to use appreciation, criticism and feedbacks sparingly to create a healthy personality in kids.
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