Today's topic is, how and where to find the exact legal help that you need for your divorce. Whether you are thinking about divorce, about to embark on one or maybe you're already in your divorce, but you aren't happy with the strategy that's been employed. This is the episode to listen to if you want to figure out how to best get legal help without going further into debt and with having the best results possible.

Now I expect that this will be a series over time because I can't possibly go over every type of legal help there is. So as an example - today, we won't be talking too much about mediation. But remember, mediation is a method by which you can resolve disputes. It is not legal advice and it is not legal coaching. So even if you choose that route, you're going to want to seek outside legal help. And that is the topic of today's episode.

So the first thing that I usually tell people is that you want to figure out what your goals are. And while those goals might change a little bit over time, what I've seen over the last 15 years is that they generally stay very close to what you initially determined. So maybe your goal is to get out of your marriage as quickly as possible. You're willing to waive some of the things that maybe you would be entitled to in exchange for having a peaceful divorce. Maybe your goal is to get exactly what it is you are entitled to by whatever means necessary. Or maybe it's a little bit of both. You're willing to make some compromises, however, you have needs. Those needs are must haves and you also have some wants and those wants would be nice to have. So you're willing to give up on some of the wants in exchange for others so long as your main needs are met.

And for me it's really easy to talk about that because that is generally what people tell they want in our Hello Divorce calls, or even Levine Family Law Group for that matter. Often times what they tell me is, "I want to know what my legal rights are. I want to understand what likely would happen if I were to go to court and then from there I'd like to either negotiate on my own with my spouse or I'd like to hire a lawyer who can do that for me."

If your decision is the latter, meaning you would like a lawyer to negotiate on your behalf, then what I want you to do is really seek out lawyers who are focused on, not only educating consumers, but on problem-solving and finding new and innovative ways to help you through your divorce. When I was just getting started 15 years ago as a young lawyer, I had a boss who I idolized. He was a good man, but what he told me was, as I think now, completely wrong. He said, "Consumers want finality by whatever means necessary. That's how you move on. That's how you get closure. So that means we take everything to court, get a judge to make a ruling. Whatever that ruling is, the client can then take it and move on."

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