Season 4, Episode 7: POV: You’re a mom raising boys in 2025, and unlearning everything you were taught about what it means to be a “good man.”

In this episode, we sit down with @payalforstyle to talk about what it really looks like to raise emotionally intelligent boys in a world that still tells them not to cry, paint their nails, or wear butterfly clips.

From navigating gender disappointment to breaking generational cycles in South Asian homes, this one’s about parenting in the gray area, where culture, confidence, and compassion collide.

Because raising good men isn’t about pink cars or nail polish. It’s about unlearning the noise and letting them lead the way.

Season 4, Episode 6: What does it really mean to raise kids between two cultures? In this episode of The Hardest Job Ever, we unpack the mental load of being first-gen South Asian moms in America, the guilt, pressure, and pride that come with keeping culture alive while raising toddlers who think in English but celebrate Diwali.

From language lessons that end in chaos to finding toddler-safe ways to celebrate Holi and Diwali, we get real about identity, guilt, and redefining what it means to be an “Indian mom” today. This is for every millennial mom trying to pass down culture without losing her sanity (or her snacks).

 Topics we cover:

• Growing up ashamed, now obsessed with culture

• Guilt around language, festivals, and “doing enough”

• The invisible mental load of preserving traditions

• How to make Indian culture fun (not forced) for our kids

• Blending two worlds without burning out

Tune in if you’ve ever asked yourself: Am I doing enough to keep our culture alive?

Because the answer might be gentler than you think.

Diwali as kids meant different things for each of us: Karen had choreographed dances, Bollywood karaoke, and back-to-back parties. Purvi had home pujas, temple visits, and learning family recipes. Fast forward to now, and we’re the ones trying to keep the light (and sanity) alive.

In this episode, we talk about:
• How we celebrated Diwali growing up, and how different it looked for each of us
• The pressure to “create” new traditions for our kids as first-gen moms
• Why celebrating away from family hits harder than we expected
• Supporting South Asian brands like Modi Toys, Little Muffet, and Clover Baby & Kids
• The role (and guilt) social media plays in how we show up for our culture
• The real mental load behind keeping our traditions alive

Whether you’re hosting a full-blown Diwali bash or just lighting a single diya before bedtime, it all counts. You’re doing enough, mama. ✨

Season 4, Episode 4: Before our babies can even talk, the world decides who they are. In this episode, we unpack all the sneaky (and not-so-sneaky) ways gender stereotypes creep in, from pink unicorn onesies and bow pressure to “boys don’t cry.”

We talk about:
• How gendered comments start before birth
• Why girls get called “pretty” while boys get “strong”
• The weird guilt of buying your son a pink Barbie car
• What Disney and Barbie taught us (and how it’s changing)
• How to raise confident, emotionally aware kids, no matter their gender

Whether you’re a girl mom, boy mom, or both, this one will hit home. You’re not overthinking it, it really does start this early.

Motherhood has a way of making you feel like you’ve lost yourself; your time, your style, even your identity. But what if embracing fashion, confidence, and joy could actually help you feel more like you again?

In this episode with Tika (@tikabobika), we talk about:
• Losing style (and sanity) in the postpartum fog
• Breaking the “mom uniform” stereotype
• Fashion as self-expression for moms, and their kids
• Gender disappointment and learning to love being a boy mom
• Building confidence by choosing supportive friendships
• Practical tips for bringing back style and joy in everyday motherhood

If you’ve ever felt stuck in leggings and mom guilt, this conversation will remind you that style isn’t frivolous, it’s part of finding yourself again.

Season 4, Episode 2: Finding out your baby’s gender is supposed to be a joyful, magical moment. But what if it isn’t? What if instead of excitement, you feel a wave of disappointment, guilt, or even anger? You’re not alone, and it’s time we talked about it.

In this episode, we get real about gender disappointment, the complicated emotions no one prepares you for.

We cover:
• Purvi’s raw reaction to finding out she was having twin boys
• Why Karen was terrified of the idea of raising a son
• How cultural stereotypes about “boy moms” and “girl moms” shape expectations
• The guilt of wanting one gender when you know others are struggling to conceive
• Why many millennial parents are secretly hoping for girls
• How to rewrite your parenting story, no matter your baby’s gender

If you’ve ever felt conflicted after a gender reveal, this episode will remind you that your feelings are valid, and that love always finds its way.

Season 4, Episode 1: We’re back! And with life updates that range from total poopsicles to sweet popsicles. From potty training fails to toddler birthday chaos, we’re catching you up on what motherhood has really looked like these past few months.

In this episode, we share:
• Purvi’s first potty training attempt (and the carpet surprise she didn’t see coming)
• Karen’s Malibu burrito disaster, a.k.a. “the poop vest” story
• Twin birthday tips (always buy two of the exact same toy)
• Toddler tantrums that end with… poop sheets
• Karen’s big transition: returning to work after an extended maternity leave
• A sneak peek at Season 4’s focus on gender roles, cultural baggage, and raising emotionally strong South Asian kids

Motherhood is messy, magical, and sometimes covered in shit. We’re glad you’re here for another season with us.

Season 3, Episode 7: Baby food allergies, eczema, and starting solids can feel overwhelming, especially when mom guilt and family opinions get added to the mix. In this episode, we sit down with allergist Dr. Farah Khan (@farah.khan.md) for some real talk about food allergies, mom guilt, and navigating cultural skepticism.

We cover:
• Purvi's story of discovering a cashew allergy
• Why mom guilt hits hard when navigating a food allergy and why it’s not your fault
• Starting solids with less fear (and less math)
• How to know if it’s an allergy vs. a sensitivity
• EpiPens, testing, and the realities of oral immunotherapy (OIT)
• South Asian families, aunties, and why food allergies are “not real” in their eyes

If you’re managing food allergies and feel overwhelmed, this conversation will help you breathe a little easier. You are not alone.

Season 3, Episode 6: In South Asian families, “healthy” usually meant “chubby," and strength or movement were barely part of the conversation. Now as moms, we’re unlearning those generational myths and figuring out how to raise kids who feel strong, confident, and proud of their bodies.

In this episode, we’re joined by pediatric physical therapist Shivani Rami (@wigglestherapy) to unpack:
• Why “eat, eat, eat” quickly turns into “don’t eat, don’t eat”
• The pressure to fatten babies up with ghee, jaggery, and “more, more, more”
• How body shaming shows up during pregnancy and postpartum
• The cultural stigma around women working out, and why it’s shifting
• How our own definitions of fitness have changed from our 20s to motherhood
• Practical ways to talk to our kids about strength, confidence, and body image

This one’s for every mom caught between family pressure, postpartum reality, and the hope of raising a healthier next generation. You are not alone

Season 3, Episode 5: Is my baby behind? Should they be rolling, crawling, walking by now? Or are they just taking their sweet time? The comparison game can feel endless and Instagram doesn’t help.

In this episode, we sit down with pediatric physical therapist Shivani Rami, PT, DPT, founder of Wiggles Therapy (@wiggles.therapy), to get real about baby milestones, motor development, and why early intervention matters.

We cover:
• Why tummy time is foundational (and why not all tummy time counts)
• The signs and treatment of torticollis (aka the flat head/neck tightness struggle)
• Common developmental delays and when to actually worry
• Crawling: why it still matters even though the CDC dropped it
• W sitting, toe walking, and what they reveal about your child’s core strength
• Practical, everyday tips to support your baby’s movement at home

Whether you’re panicking at a family party because your baby still isn’t crawling or just want tools to support their growth, this episode will make you feel seen and remind you that milestones are a range, not a race.

Season 3, Episode 4: Sleep training feels like one of the most guilt-filled, opinion-loaded parts of parenting, especially in South Asian families where “just feed them more” is everyone’s go-to solution. Between night feeds, cultural pushback, and babies who suddenly learn to stand, it’s no wonder moms feel like they’re failing.

In this episode, we’re joined by Rinie Gupta (@riniegupta), pediatric sleep consultant and mom, to talk all things baby sleep without the shame, stress, or cultural guilt trips.

We cover:
• Karen and Purvi’s raw, emotional sleep training stories
• The most common cultural myths about baby sleep (and why they’re wrong)
• How to handle pushback from grandparents and in-laws
• Why regressions happen, and how to survive them without starting from scratch
• Crib escapes, nap strikes, and other curveballs you can actually plan for
• The mindset shift that makes sleep training less stressful for everyone

If your baby isn’t sleeping, you’re not failing. You’re just frigging exhausted, and you’re not alone.

Season 3, Episode 3: You think you cracked the sleep code. Then the regression hits. And the daycare germs. And the teething. And suddenly you’re rocking a baby to Timber at 2am wondering how it all fell apart.

In this episode, we’re talking about what happens after sleep training, when the real chaos begins.

We cover:
• The four-month and six-month sleep regressions
• Why daycare means nonstop sickness and zero sleep
• Crawling, walking, and the gross motor milestones that wreck naps
• Working mom guilt and nighttime separation anxiety
• Teething symptoms and the remedies that actually helped
• Our favorite mantras and middle-of-the-night coping rituals

Sleep is not linear. You are not alone. And you are not failing. You're just in the thick of it, and we’re right there with you.

Season 3, Episode 2: If you’re a new mom drowning in sleep deprivation, nap schedules, and unsolicited opinions, this episode is for you. We’re getting real about baby sleep: what we thought it would be, what it actually was, and how sleep training tested everything from our sanity to our cultural values.

In this episode, we share:

• What no one tells you about sleep training as a first-time mom

• How Purvi sleep trained her twins (with an Indian twist)

• Karen’s honest take on travel, regressions, and crying-it-out

• The emotional toll of baby sleep: mom guilt and cultural judgment

Whether you’re co-sleeping, Ferber-ing, or still Googling “how to get my baby to nap,” this is your permission slip to figure it out your way. Because every baby is different, and every mom deserves rest.

Season 3, Episode 1: Starting solids feels exciting, until it feels totally overwhelming. What do you feed? How much? What if they gag, or worse - choke? We sit down with Madhura Kearns, the voice behind @foodiefirststeps, to talk all about starting solids with confidence, culture and connection.

We cover:

• Why feeding feels so emotional and overwhelming

• How to introduce cultural foods

• Practical tips for making food fun, not stressful

Season 2, Ep 5: After you have a baby, everyone has opinions—and zero respect for nap schedules. From unsolicited advice to uninvited drop-bys, setting boundaries as a new mom isn’t rude. It’s survival.

In this episode, we’re sharing:

• Real-life boundary wins (and fails)

• How we handled surprise visitors and unwanted advice

• The added pressure of cultural expectations (hi, South Asian guilt)

• How to align with your partner and stay a united front

• What we’ve learned about picking battles—and when to just let it go

This one’s for the moms trying to be respectful and realistic. Because you can love your family and still say no.

S2 Ep4: In this episode, Karen takes us inside her meticulous, exhausting, and sometimes maddening breastfeeding journey—from collecting colostrum at 37 weeks to weaning while working full-time.

We cover:

• How she learned to collect colostrum (and why it mattered later)

• Flange sizing, nipple shields, and other ridiculous breastfeeding gear

• The chaos of triple feeding and tube feeding—and how she survived it

• Pumping in office supply closets, hormonal crashes, and weaning grief

• What finally helped her feel like herself again (and why “fed is best” isn’t just a slogan)

This one’s for the overachieving pumpers, the exclusive breastfeeders, the formula moms, and anyone just trying to make it through one more feed. You’re doing more than enough.

Season 2, Ep 3: Two boobs. Two babies. One sleep-deprived mom with a spreadsheet full of milk data. In this episode, Purvi takes us inside her chaotic, emotional, and surprisingly hilarious breastfeeding journey with premature twin boys.

We cover:

• Pumping 9–10 times a day (yes, really)

• Tandem feeding fails and twin Z pillow wins

• The pressure to “exclusively breastfeed”—and what happened when mastitis hit

• Formula guilt, clogged ducts, and the great European formula rabbit hole

• Why fed is best—and your mental health matters more than any number of ounces

This one’s for the twin moms in the trenches, the pumping warriors, and anyone questioning if they’re doing enough. You are.

Season 2, Ep 2: There’s the body you had before baby. And then there’s the body that survived birth, surgery, sleepless nights, and somehow—kept tiny human(s) alive.

In this episode, we’re talking about the weird, real, and beautiful changes that happen to our bodies after birth, including:

• Night sweats, phantom cries, and postpartum hair loss

• C-section scars, stretch marks, and the mental spiral of “getting your body back”

• How we slowly started feeling human again (think sunshine, Peloton rides, shower bombs, and FaceTime workouts)

This one’s for every mom caught between grieving her old self and growing into something new. You’re not broken. You’re just becoming.

Season 2, Ep 1: No one warned us that the fourth trimester would feel like being reborn and slightly wrecked at the same time. You’re stitched, swollen, sobbing at everything, and somehow still keeping a little newborn baby alive.

In this kickoff to Season 2, we’re talking about the raw reality of those first 8 postpartum weeks, including:• Physical recovery

• Emotional recovery

• What helped us feel vaguely human again

This one’s for the moms deep in the fog—healing, holding, and hanging on. You’re not crazy. You’re in the f*ing fourth trimester.

Episode 10, Replaying a hit from Season 1: Karen & Purvi discuss the challenges of maintaining social lives after becoming mothers. They explore the pressures of keeping old friendships alive while trying to forge new connections with other moms. The conversation delves into the emotional struggles of feeling left out from pre-baby friendships and the complexities of navigating new mom friendships. They reflect on their past behaviors towards friends who became mothers before them and emphasize the importance of support and understanding in motherhood.