As humans, sometimes it feels selfish to set boundaries and put our own needs first.  In reality, putting yourself first has nothing to do with, ‘I'm not thinking of anybody else.’ It has everything to do with ‘How do I make myself happy so that my relationships and life as a whole are healthy and fulfilling?’ It’s like they tell you before every flight takes off — you’ve got to put your own oxygen mask on first, before you can help someone else! This episode is all about learning how to be “healthy selfish,” because figuring out, communicating, and prioritizing your needs isn’t actually selfish! Boundaries make the world go round if you can learn how to speak up about yours and advocate for your needs and values.  Whether it's a relationship, family, friends, or your job, learning to be “healthy selfish” will only bring good to you and the people around you.   Kass and Steve talk about boundaries, speaking up for yourself, and why it is so important to ask for what you want in life.