We want our kids to behave because their dis-regulation dis-regulates us.

Plain and Simple.

Behave children, so that I don't have to deal with my own big emotions.

We want them to be emotionally mature enough to carry the whole family.

Not. Going. To. Happen!

They are children!!

WE are the adults.

WE need to learn how to regulate our own minds, bodies, feelings, and nervous systems in order to

Co-regulate with them.

We have to go first.

Kids do not do what we teach them.

They learn from what we do.

We have to get this figured out first.

On the Fruit Snacks Podcast this week,

I explain more about our autonomic nervous system and what is happening for us when the thought work isn't working.

If you are finding yourself flying off the handle way too often for the dumbest reasons, please tap in.

And then sign up for a complimentary coaching session where we can meet in a safe place to discuss what is going on for you.

No shame.

We're all human.

I've got you.