In this episode of Conversations on Motherhood, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Ayanda, host of Actually Let’s Talk About It, as she opens up about the complexities of her relationship with her mother and the decision to go no-contact. Ayanda’s story is tender and layered, reminding us how deeply childhood experiences shape our sense of self, our desires, and our choices. She reflects on mother wounds and the unspoken weight they carry, the longing for connection, and the courage it takes to choose distance in order to heal. Together, we explore what it means to reimagine care when love and pain coexist, and how healing can unfold in many different ways — sometimes in closeness, and sometimes in letting go. Follow The Feminist Bar Podcast:Instagram: @thefeministbarpodcastTwitter/X: @thefeministbarPatreon: patreon.com/thefeministbar