Episode 5: Communication and Boundaries What does “good communication” really mean in ethical non-monogamy — and how do you know if you’re setting a boundary or just trying to control someone? Intro Paragraph:
In this episode of The ENM DNM, we unpack the layered, often messy world of communication and boundaries in ethical non-monogamy. We explore how mismatched expectations, emotional triggers, people-pleasing, and different processing styles impact our relationships. You’ll hear real-life stories of things gone right (and wrong), how we define “good communication,” and what happens when boundaries are unclear or unspoken. Whether you’re new to ENM or years into your journey, this conversation is packed with honesty, reflection, and insight into what it takes to build trust and connection in non-monogamous relationships.
What We Talk About:- How we define “good communication” in ENM relationships
- Why listening is the most underrated communication skill
- Emotional regulation and learning your own processing style
- What a boundary actually is (and what it’s not)
- When communication isn’t enough and a relationship ends
- Common challenges like unmet expectations and miscommunication between partners and metamours
- The difference between boundaries, agreements, and rules
- Learning from past relationships and becoming “version 2.0”
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