There is a lot of talk these days about the important of saying no.  The clear message tends to be along the lines of - your time is precious and so protect it.  Learn to say no.  I believe that there is truth in this but I cannot help but feel like a lot of this misses the point and it misses the one single biggest threat to all of this.  The biggest threat to your time is yourself.  The point therefore is not to say no to everyone else so we can say yes to ourselves.  The point is to learn to say no to ourselves.