This episode is a fiery, truth-telling conversation on the four true phases of a woman’s life: Child/Maiden, Mother/Creatrix, Maga/Healer, and Wise Woman/Crone. And how patriarchal culture’s obsession with youth keeps women disconnected from their real power. We unpack how to reclaim every stage of your life as sacred, to honour your desires as your soul’s GPS, and step fully into your creative, erotic, and spiritual potency at any age. Leaving behind what no longer serves you, and claiming the power that's always been yours.  It’s raw, real, and a radical reclamation of womanhood beyond the patriarchy’s script. So often we’re told there are only two stages in a woman’s life; young and old. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.  Each stage of our life cycle carries its own gifts, power, and sacred purpose. From the innocence and exploration of the Maiden years, to the creative fire and mastery of Motherhood and Creatrix, through the potent healing and truth-telling of the Midlife Maga and Healer, and into the deep wisdom and spiritual power of the Wise Woman and Crone; each phase is a portal into greater wholeness. Each cycle carries the stories of our ancestors and the lineage of women's wisdom that we feel in our bones, that we all know in our quieter moments.  This is a tender, fierce, and deeply affirming episode. It's my love letter to every woman who’s ever felt unseen, stuck, or disconnected from her changing body and evolving self. My hope is that you walk away remembering just how extraordinary, powerful, and necessary you are: in every season of your life!       === LINKS: === •Website: vilates.com •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

In today’s episode, I sit down with the radiant Melanie Zimmer, an Embodiment Coach who guides women through the transformational portal of perimenopause and menopause, helping them reclaim their sensuality, the power of their truth, and pleasure on their own terms. We dive into what it really means to move through this phase of life as a sacred initiation and invitation into becoming who you really are and have always been meant to be. Melanie shares her own raw and beautiful journey of perimenopause; the confusion, the wild emotional highs and lows, the breaking open and breaking through, and how it all became a path to greater self-love, embodiment, and liberation. Together, we explore:✨ Why midlife isn’t a crisis, but a portal into your deepest truth and power✨ How to rediscover pleasure, not performative pleasure, but the kind that nourishes your whole being✨ Healing body shame and rewriting your relationship to sensuality✨ The connection between safety, trust, and true intimacy✨ And how this season of life lights a fire in you to finally come home to yourself. Melanie also shares her beautiful “Start Your Day with Sensual Aliveness” ritual, a free guided practice to help you reconnect with your body each morning and awaken your inner spark. You'll find the link to this free resource below.  This episode is an invitation to every woman who’s ever felt disconnected from her body, her pleasure, or her power to remember that your sensuality doesn’t end with menopause. It evolves, deepens, and becomes something even more profound. It’s tender, honest, and filled with embodied wisdom and I can’t wait for you to listen.     === GUEST LINKS:   FREE RESOURCE Sensual Aliveness: https://melaniezimmercoaching.com/sensual-aliveness  Website: https://www.melaniezimmercoaching.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniezimmercoaching  FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/melaniezimmercoaching  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melaniezimmercoaching  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melanie-zimmer-74a0672b0/      . === •Website: vilates.com •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

Join me in this juicy and deeply honest conversation with the brilliant British-Irish Writer, Author, and Sexuality Advocate, Tash Doherty. Together we talk about pubic hair, alchemising shame, and the radical act of embracing our bodies, voices, and sensuality in a world that still teaches women to shrink, hide, and self-censor. From exploring inner child work and sexual conditioning to celebrating some of the most incredible poetry as a gateway to sensual expression, Tash shares her story of breaking free from the prim and proper confines of elite schooling, rediscovering her rebellious creative voice, and writing her debut novel These Perfectly Careless Things. The conversation dives into self-compassion, body acceptance, and how writing and journaling can become tools for erotic healing and self-discovery.  If you’re ready to heal some shame and explore your sexuality in a deeply honest way, I invite you to join us in this lively discussion where we reveal Tash’s latest offering; the upcoming Intimacy Journal: A Journey of Sensuality, Sex, and Self.         === GUEST LINKS:   Website: https://www.tashdoherty.com/ Substack: https://misseducated.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/misseducated_/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tashdoherty_/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@misseducated_ Book: https://www.amazon.com/These-Perfectly-Careless-Things-Coming/dp/B0CKKXKQLC/       . === The Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass: https://www.vilates.com/waitlist2025 Website: vilates.com FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

If you’ve ever found yourself performing your pleasure instead of fully feeling it, this episode is your wake-up call. Today, I’m inviting you into a deeply honest conversation about orgasmic equality and the truth of women’s pleasure.  Drawing inspiration from Dr. Laurie Mintz’s groundbreaking book Becoming Cliterate, we’ll explore why the “orgasm gap” isn’t a personal problem, it’s a cultural conditioning that teaches women to perform pleasure instead of embodying it. Join me as I unpack how understanding your own arousal system, anatomy, and nervous system can completely transform your relationship with your body and your experience of intimacy and connection. You’ll learn how orgasm equality is not just about pleasure, it’s the very foundation of personal, creative, emotional, and even economic empowerment. So if you’re ready to stop faking it, in bed and in life, and start living from your most embodied, turned-on truth, pour yourself a cup of tea, and get comfortable and let's get to it!        === LINKS: === •Anatomy Of Pleasure Masterclass: https://www.vilates.com/waitlist2025  •Website: vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.      

So many of us grew up in families where our emotional expression was stifled or invalidated, and those formative experiences often play themselves out in our adult relationships and the ways we navigate (or avoid) conflict. Most couples will have the same fight over and over again, whether it’s the dishes in the sink, stress about finances, sex, or lack of time together. But what if those recurring conflicts aren’t about what we say they are, but instead the need for something deeper? What if they’re actually invitations to heal old wounds and deepen our intimate connection? Join me in this episode as I unpack why conflict is not only healthy, but necessary in relationships, and how our nervous systems interpret disagreements as threats based on childhood conditioning. I share a simple but transformative practice of active listening that will allow you to get underneath the surface of any argument you may be having, and help you to uncover what’s really going on. Practicing this skill will help you to connect with your partner in ways that feel profoundly healing for both of you. You’ll learn: Why we repeat the same arguments in relationships How childhood experiences shape the way we handle conflict A step-by-step tool for listening that shifts fights into connection The powerful phrase that can dissolve defensiveness and open intimacy If you’ve ever felt stuck having the same fights with your partner, this episode will give you a roadmap to move from frustration into deeper connection, intimacy, and genuine understanding.       ===LINKS: ===•Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===......Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

If you've ever found yourself living a life that ticks all the boxes on the outside, but still feel like something's missing, then this conversation's for you. Today I'm speaking with the incredible Somatic Love Coach Manjit Khalsa, and honestly, this conversation moved me to tears and also into deep joy and recognition of so much truth. Manjit is here to speak about love, and all the ways we search for love, need love, seek love, and how we can open into finding love especially as we move through major life transitions such as divorce, or going against cultural or societal expectations. Manjit shares so vulnerably and courageously her own journey from fulfilling all the cultural expectations of her deeply traditional community, achieving all the professional accolades, getting married, and getting the house, while simultaneously finding herself depressed and unwell with an autoimmune illness. But like a phoenix rising from the ashes, she walked through the fire of divorce and left everything she had known behind and stepped into a profound and life-changing journey of discovering herself, her desires, self-love, and sovereignty. Together, we discuss what it truly means to choose yourself, trust your desires as your own internal compass, and to embody love as a lived experience and expression, beyond definitions, boxes, and societal expectations. This episode is an invitation to remember your own inherent wholeness, to open and soften into receiving, and rediscover love in its most radical form: within yourself.       ===GUEST LINKS: Connect and work with Manjit: Website: https://manjitkhalsa.podia.com/ Open to Love: https://manjitkhalsa.podia.com/open-to-love Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pleasure_labs/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/manjit.khalsa.37 ===   •Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===... ..Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

Ever feel like you’re faking it, even when you know you’re capable, qualified, and accomplished? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’ll explore the deeper roots of imposter syndrome and why so many women struggle with it, especially when we dare to step outside the status quo and create a life on our own terms. You’ll discover how disconnection from your body, your desires, and your inner wisdom fuels self-doubt, perfectionism, and the “never enough” mindset. And more importantly, you’ll learn how to begin unraveling that conditioning so you can step back into your worthiness, your power, and your joy. This isn’t about hustling harder or proving yourself. It’s about remembering that you're inherently deserving, even when you’re resting, creating, laughing, and especially when you're simply being. You’ll be invited to reframe imposter syndrome not as a setback, but as an invitation to come home to yourself. If you’ve ever wondered “Who am I to do this?” then this conversation is for you.            LINKS: ===•Website: https://www.vilates.com/  •FREE Somatic Healing Practice (Breast & Heart Healing Meditation): www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

This episode is everything for anyone who's ever been labelled as the 'low-libido' partner, or who's in a relationship where there's mismatched libidos causing havoc.  Join me as I sit down with renowned Somatic Sex Therapist Susan Morgan Taylor, who has helped hundreds of couples deepen the intimate connections and create mutually satisfying sex and intimacy for the long term. Susan shares her personal journey from a sexless marriage to a profound awakening of her own orgasmic potential, and how that's inspired her to help women around the world to experience their own sexual awakening through creating the incredible Pleasure Keys process. Together, we unpack the persistent myths around women’s libido and sex drive, the difference between climax and orgasm, and why redefining sex as connection can change not only our relationships, but our entire lives.  Susan believes we can change the world by how we have sex, make love, and that our intimate relationships are the most direct opportunity for personal growth and healing.  Because how we show up intimately and sexually is really reflective of how we connect with all of life and how we connect with others, and ultimately with ourselves. If you’ve ever felt like intimacy was out of reach or struggled with low sex drive or mismatched libidos, this conversation is truly a gift.   ===GUEST LINKS:Website: https://www.pathwaytopleasure.com/ ===•Website: https://www.vilates.com/  •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass: https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

Join me as I sit down with Naked Yoga Facilitator, Rikki Yeowart. as we talk about what Naked Yoga actually is (it's not what you may be thinking!) and the journey of liberating our bodies from shame, embarrassment, inhibition, and learning to embrace our bodies with real self acceptance.  Rikki shares her journey from being a Dancer to becoming a Naked Yoga and Naked Awakening Retreats Facilitator, Sex, Love and Relationship Coach, and Embodiment Mentor. In this deeply personal conversation, Rikki explores how heartbreak, societal conditioning, and years of performance-based living and loving led her to reconnect with her body, alchemise sexual shame, and embrace body-based liberation. Discover how her workshops create safe, sacred, and shame-free spaces where participants can explore nudity, presence, and self-expression in a non-sexualized, and truly heart healing way. Rikki also shares insights on listening to your body, navigating intimacy and relationships, and reclaiming pleasure, confidence, and personal boundaries. Together we dive deep into overcoming the challenges with social media censorship of body-positive and pleasure-positive education, the power of curiosity, conscious communication, and the importance of community in healing. Honestly, if you’ve ever wanted to feel more embodied, empowered, and free in your own skin, this episode is a masterclass in presence, self-acceptance, and liberation.    Resources Mentioned: Layla Martin, Emily Nagoski (Come As You Are), Regena Thomashauer, aka; Mama Gena (Pussy: A Reclamation), Esther Perel, Jamila Jamil, Make Love Not Porn.     === GUEST LINKS:   Website: http://www.rikkiyeowart.com.au Speak to be Understood waitlist: https://rikki-yeowart.aweb.page/p/ca6ca78d-5325-4e30-bea7-8235d64d4d00  Love Yourself First Workbook: https://rikkiyeowart.thrivecart.com/love-yourself/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rikkiyeowart/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rik.james.10    . === •Website: vilates.com •Sensual Activation Meditation Suite: www.vilates.com/sensualactivationsuite/p/sensual-activation-suite •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

What if your body & your sexuality were never broken, but sacred all along? ✨ Today I’m speaking with Lauren Elise Rogers, a Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach. And honestly, having this conversation felt like sitting down with a dear friend who finally said out loud so many things we’ve all thought but never spoken.   Lauren shares her story of growing up in purity culture, marrying young, and then finding herself in a sexless, confusing marriage that was shrouded in silence. I could feel that ache when she described thinking “something must be wrong with me”, because at some point, haven’t we all been there in some form or another?   What really struck me however, was the turning point in her life, when through the support of a dear friend, she realized she had a choice to make. And that moment of stepping into her agency, of reclaiming her voice, her body, her desires; that moment was both terrifying and liberating at the same time. Lauren lost her marriage, her faith community, her sense of belonging, and yet, in the middle of all that rubble, she discovered something extraordinary: her own self-trust. And like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she transformed her life from pain to power.   Now Lauren helps women all around the world to release shame, remember their wholeness, and reclaim the sacred connection between pleasure, spirit, and self-trust. Together, we explore how to invite more joy and embodiment into everyday life, whether through small acts of comfort, moments of beauty, or finally granting ourselves permission to desire and orient to pleasure. So, if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, questioned your worth, or longed for deeper intimacy, this episode will feel like both a mirror and a gentle hand to hold. It’s an empowering reminder that you are not broken, and that true pleasure, freedom, and self-trust are yours to claim.   ===GUEST LINKS: Connect with Lauren: https://sexedforyou.com/connect Website: https://sexedforyou.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/   ===•Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

In this episode, I open up about why so many of us have been left in the dark when it comes to our bodies, our sexual anatomy, and the foundations of arousal, power, and pleasure, and how reclaiming this knowledge is nothing short of revolutionary. I share my own journey of moving beyond years of talk therapy and intellect-based healing into the world of Tantra, Taoism, and science-backed somatic practices that completely transformed my relationship with my body. Together, we’ll explore what it means to feel safe in your body, how to unlock deeper levels of self-love, and why pleasure is not just about orgasm, but about nervous system regulation, healing, and wholeness. This conversation is for every woman who’s ever felt like sex was “just okay,” who’s wondered if there might be more to her experience, or who’s ready to break free of cultural conditioning and finally come home to her body.   What if your pleasure was a source of power, healing, and deep connection to yourself? What if your desires were divine instructions for your soul’s true alignment? The truth is, you are wired for bliss, healing, and for a life fuelled by the regenerative power of your pleasure, but you’ve just never been taught the "how". Well buckle up beautiful, cause we’re about to explore all of that and more!   ===LINKS:===•FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

This episode is like a warm, gentle hug for your nervous system. Today we’re diving into a beautifully simple but powerful tool called Containment + Coherence. It’s one of those “why didn’t I learn this sooner?” kinds of practices that helps you deal with stress, overwhelm, or any intense emotion or experience that can sometimes knock the wind out of you. I guide you through a process that helps create space inside your body, mind and soul for calm, clarity, and healing. And from that space? We go into the heart, reconnecting you to the regenerative energies of love and alignment. This meditation will give you the grace to pause, breathe, and return to centre. Whether your week has been chaos or calm, this practice is a nourishing reminder that you’re not at the mercy of your emotions. You have tools. You have power. Honestly, this one’s worth saving for the days when life feels like too much. The meditation is 11min long, and begins at the 4.12min mark.   ===LINKS:=== •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

In this episode, I dive deep into something I’m really passionate about; pleasure. Not the kind that’s marketed to us with spa packages or luxury retreats (though those can be lovely), but something even more powerful and intimate: pleasure as a healing, regenerative resource that we can cultivate and use to replenish our bodies and minds in our everyday lives. Pleasure isn’t self indulgence, or selfish, it's a sacred life-giving force. It’s how we come back to ourselves when we’ve been stretched too thin, when the world feels too loud, and when our nervous systems are fried from constant doing and over giving. It's also a portal to what is deeply true for you at your core. Today I explore how pleasure can bring your bodies back into balance and homeostasis and how pleasure is deeply tied to self-worth, boundaries, and healing the stories we’ve inherited from our lineages. Pleasure isn't something you have to earn. It’s something your body, soul, and nervous system deeply needs for health and wellbeing. And so my invitation to you is to reflect on what your own  personal "pleasure jam" is, what lights you up, fills your cup, and makes you feel alive again. My intention for you today is for you to walk away with inspiration to reconnect with those little (or big) joyful things, and maybe even reframe pleasure as the most powerful wellness tool you have access to.          ===LINKS: ===   •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

Join me in a beautiful, soul-nourishing conversation with Caitlin Rose, a Queer, Somatic Guide who supports Neurodivergent and Queer folks in unmasking, softening, and coming home to themselves. She doesn’t push people toward change with force or pressure. Her whole approach is rooted in deep listening, gentleness, and creating safety in the body. And as a woman in midlife who’s navigating motherhood, partnership, identity, and a lot of unlearning, this conversation really spoke to me. Especially because I’m raising neurodivergent kids, and potentially questioning my own neurodivergence. It feels like this loud, fast, overstimulating world is constantly asking us to keep up, and Caitlin is here to give us all full permission to slow all the way down, down to the pace that feels actually supportive, rather than depleting. Caitlin shares how her journey started in the sacred sexuality space, but how over time it has evolved into a somatic approach to nervous system regulation work. Her work is a deep invitation into a homecoming that grounds us into how we regulate, recalibrate, and remember our own rhythm. I just loved the way she described how liberating it feels to be in a room with other neurodivergent and queer folks and just exist in whatever way felt right. No judgment. No pressure. Just presence. It really got me thinking about how often we force ourselves to fit into a mold that doesn’t actually suit us. Especially as women, we’re taught to override our needs to be good, to be productive, to keep everyone else comfortable.  Caitlin’s work offers an alternative; the perspective that true liberation starts when we stop fixing ourselves and start accepting and honouring our lived experience exactly as we really are. She’s consciously choosing slowness now. Gentleness. Spaciousness. She’s creating programs and workshops that honour neurodivergent nervous systems, rather than overwhelm them. Her upcoming offering, The Soft Return, is a 5-week online program designed specifically for queer and neurodivergent folks who want to gently come back to themselves. It’s not about fixing, it’s about remembering. Reconnecting. Reclaiming. She’s created a space where you’re not told what your truth is, but invited to discover it at your own pace, in your own way. And I don’t know about you, but I’m craving more of that. More spaces where we get to exhale. More conversations that remind us we don’t have to push or pretend. Just soften. Just come home.     LINKS:   === Website: https://caitlinrosetaylor.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcaitlinrose_/ The Soft Return 5 week program: https://caitlinrosetaylor.org/soft-return-program . . === LINKS:     •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

In this episode, I open up about something incredibly personal, powerful, and for so many of us long overdue: self-consent and the journey of truly coming home to our bodies. We hear the word embodiment a lot these days, don’t we? But what does it actually mean to live in our bodies, rather than just in our heads?   As women it’s so easy to stay in that mental checklist mode, always planning, anticipating, and caretaking while completely ignoring the messages from within. So many of us were raised to prioritise others, their comfort, their approval, even their pleasure above our own, and to ignore the discomfort in our bodies, to override our instincts, to be polite, to smile, to stay small and agreeable. Over time, that takes a toll. It erodes our ability to fully hear our “no” and therefore, understand our full, embodied “yes.”   So today, I gently invite you to pause and create a micro-moment of embodied presence. These little moments may seem small, but they’re powerful. They’re tiny acts of coming back home to your body. And from that space, I began to explore a much deeper topic: consent, starting with what it means to consent to ourselves. I talk about how our early life experiences, attachment styles, and trauma responses all shape the way we show up in intimate relationships and how we often give away pieces of ourselves without realising it. I also share an incredible study from HeartMath that proves your heart can sense danger before your brain can process it. Your body knows. And it’s just waiting for you to listen. So if you've ever questioned whether your boundaries matter, if you’ve ever said yes when you really meant no, or if you’re simply curious about reconnecting with the wise, powerful woman you already are this episode is for you.   And if you're curious about exploring somatic work a little deeper, I’ve created a beautiful, free heart + breast meditation just for you, it’s a gentle, nourishing way to start coming home to yourself. You deserve to be in a body that feels safe. And you deserve to feel your full, embodied yes on your terms.     LINKS: === •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist: https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 •Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   ===....Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

This episode was sparked by a conversation with a friend, and it just lit a fire in me. We started talking about how little we were taught about our bodies growing up, especially in the context of pleasure. I’m a child of the ’70s, so you can imagine what sex ed looked like back then (and honestly, not much has changed). It was all about avoiding pregnancy and STIs, with barely a whisper about female anatomy, consent, pleasure & orgasms. And that silence? It's by design.   We live in a culture that benefits from women not knowing the power of their own bodies. And when we don’t fully understand how our pleasure works, or even that we deserve it, it plays into broader patterns of disempowerment. Whether it’s in our sex lives, our careers, or even in medical appointments where we’re too often gaslit out of our experience. This lack of education both disadvantages and hurts us.   So today, I open up about my own journey with pleasure (including learning about clitoral orgasms  from an old Cosmopolitan magazine sealed section!) and share stories that might sound a little too familiar. I also talk about the incredible range of orgasmic experiences we can have, and the fact that most of us have never even been taught how or that they’re even possible.   This is why I created the Anatomy of Pleasure masterclass, a six-week deep dive into the power, beauty, and science of your body. We explore everything from clitoral, G-zone, cervical, and nipple orgasms, to squirting, ejaculation, and whole-body ecstasy. This is the education we all should have had, but never got. And every single one of us deserves to have this knowledge.   So if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your sensuality, unsure of your body, or just curious to explore your own pleasure on a deeper level, this episode is for you. We’re talking empowerment, embodiment, and the liberation that comes from finally understanding the magic you’ve carried all along.   ✨ Doors open soon and I’d love for you to be part of this journey. Get on the waitlist here: https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025  it’s going to be a life-changing reclamation of pleasure. . . . LINKS===•Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

In today’s episode, my good friend and colleague, Dr Eva Yacobi, a Functional Medicine and Naturopathic Doctor and Somatic Intimacy Coach interviews me for her podcast; Intimately Speaking. Eva has generously allowed me to share this conversation where she interviews me on my personal journey to this work. And because she’s such a dear friend, this is a deeply personal and heartfelt conversation where I open up about my journey from surviving sexual abuse to finding healing and transformation through my academic studies in Sexology and certification in Tantric Somatic Sacred Sexuality practices and Embodiment Coaching methodologies.   We talk about what it really means to feel safe in your body, how self-pleasure can be a renewable, regenerative resource in your life, not just self-care, as well as the importance of body positivity and acceptance, especially for those of us navigating life after motherhood.   I also share how I incorporate these principles into my children’s lives, how they’ve informed the way I engage in motherhood, and how they’ve helped me to build healthier, more open mother-child relationships when it comes to body awareness and boundaries.   If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body or intimacy, especially after having kids, this conversation is for you. This episode offers gentle, empowering insights on how we as mothers can begin to reconnect with ourselves, rediscover pleasure, and create deeper, more fulfilling intimate lives, as well as being a reminder that sexual healing isn’t just possible, it can be life-changing, not only for us, but for our families and future generations too.       GUEST LINKS: Website: https://naturopathicalchemy.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.evayacobi Substack: https://substack.com/@drevayacobi   === ===•Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 ===   Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

In this episode, I'm sharing a recent interview I did with my dear friend Kate Reynolds, a registered nurse and fellow podcast host (High Tea with Lady V) who’s refreshingly honest when it comes to women’s health. We talk about everything, from being touched out in motherhood, to how we've been conditioned from a very young age to be people pleasers, and how that shows up in our sexuality through every stage of life, from girlhood to motherhood, and even into perimenopause.   Kate and I talk openly about the incredible power of female sexuality and reflect on some of the life-changing insights from Emily Nagoski’s work and some of the latest sexuality research. We chat about all different kinds of orgasms and how healing it can be to fully reconnect with our bodies.   We also explore how ancient practices like Tantra and Taoism can give women a practical pathway to understanding their sexuality far beyond anything learned from sex ed in high school, as well as guiding us back to our pleasure, our self-worth, and our sense of wholeness. This isn’t about becoming someone new, but remembering who we really are beneath the layers of guilt, shame, and obligation so many of us carry.   My hope is that this episode feels like a warm, honest conversation with girlfriends, one that reminds you that your pleasure, your body, and your healing matter.   LINKS:   ===•Website: www.vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Sensual Activation Suite: https://www.vilates.com/sensualactivationsuite/p/sensual-activation-suite •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980    

In this episode, I’m opening up about something really personal, my upcoming spinal surgery. To be honest, I’ve been feeling a mix of fear and a tonne of vulnerability. It’s all happened so fast and it's been a lot to carry.  As I’ve been processing everything, it’s made me reflect on how many of us face these unexpected life moments that we don't see coming. The ones that knock the wind out of us. And yet, somehow, we keep showing up. And I wanted to speak to that.  This experience aligns so much with the postpartum period too, something so many of us quietly struggle through, with all the challenges in intimacy, the emotional shifts, and the pressure to “bounce back” when what we really need is time and understanding, so we can heal. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it all together, even while falling apart inside, you’re not alone. I see you. And this conversation is an invitation to honour all of the different seasons we move through, not just the joyful ones, but the tender, in-between spaces too. At the end of the episode, I guide you through a calming self-affirmation exercise. It’s something that’s helped me stay grounded, and that I'll be using myself on the long road to recovery post-surgery. I hope it offers you a moment of peace, encouragement, and the reminder that you are never alone in this journey.         LINKS === •Website: vilates.com •Sensual Activation Suite: www.vilates.com/sensualactivationsuite/p/sensual-activation-suite •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980    

Ever feel like there's more to intimacy and sensuality than you’ve been taught? Join me for one of the most raw, honest, and inspiring conversations that will leave you feeling seen, supported, and maybe even a little turned on, with Erin Kyna.   Erin is a trauma-informed sexuality coach, healer, and all-around wisdom keeper for women ready to reclaim their sexuality, pleasure and power.   She is as inspiring as she is relatable and has been walking through the fire of her own personal sexual awakenings and transformations and journeying into what it means to really step into personal power, while guiding others to do the same for over a decade.   Today Erin opens up about her personal spiritual and sexual awakening, and together we talk about everything: from releasing shame and breaking free from societal conditioning, to understanding boundaries, consent, and the magic of somatic practices.   Erin also shares her perspective on authentic sexual expression, the importance of playfulness, and why knowing your own body is essential at any age.   Whether you're just starting to explore this part of yourself, or you're fully on the road to reclaiming intimacy in your life, this conversation is a beautiful reminder that pleasure is not a luxury, it’s actually your birthright.       GUEST LINKS: Website: https://www.erinkyna.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erinkyna   === •Website: vilates.com •Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching •Sensual Activation Suite: https://www.vilates.com/sensualactivationsuite/p/sensual-activation-suite  •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980