What should I actually be focusing on right now? That was the question a dad to be emailed us this week, and if you have ever been in that waiting season, excited and overwhelmed, wondering what really matters before the baby comes, this one is for you. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael share a real, two part answer shaped by their first year as dads. From nesting chaos and diaper debates to emotional connection and personal growth, this conversation is funny, honest, and packed with practical takeaways. You will hear stories about the reality of helping during nesting mode, what it means to show up for your partner when you cannot fix everything, and how defining the kind of dad you want to be changes everything once your baby arrives. This is equal parts reflection and field guide, real talk for new and expecting dads trying to prepare for a role no one can truly prepare you for. Here’s what we unpack: • Why focus on your partner is the single best advice for every dad to be• What nesting actually looks like and why you will be cleaning the top of the fridge• How to support your partner emotionally instead of just doing things• The two pronged approach being there for her and building your own foundation• How to define the kind of dad you want to become before you are in it• The dad types, smoker dad, CrossFit dad, hobbyist dad, chill dad, and what they reveal about us• How your strengths and flaws both get amplified in fatherhood• Why the fear of losing yourself is not the end of the story• The truth about what life really looks like one year later If you have ever searched: how to prepare for fatherhooddad advice before babyhow to support my pregnant wifewhat to expect as a new dadreal talk for Christian dadsnesting for dadspregnancy advice for husbandsdad prep checklisthow to define your parenting styleChristian parenting podcast This episode is for you. 🧡 Resources Mentioned:• Taking Cara Babies Course (Affiliate Link)• The Happiest Baby on the Block• The Expectant Father• Join the Spit Up Society Discord