Here’s how most people think about their lack of confidence:
" I’d be more confident if I hadn’t inherited my father’s indecisiveness…"
" If only I didn’t have such a neurotic personality, then I could be more confident…"
"If my mother had really loved me then I’d feel more confident and secure in my relationships…"
Fortunately, they’re wrong. Of course, everything from genetics to childhood experience has some influence on how confident you feel (or don’t). But by far the biggest influence on confidence is the one everyone seems to miss…
It’s your habits in the present, not the events of your past, that determine your confidence. I’ve found that there are a handful of confidence-killing habits people fall into without knowing it. And it’s these habits that are the real causes of chronically low confidence.
If you can learn to identify and work through them, you’ll find that your natural levels of confidence are much higher than you realize.
