Is the attachment style we inherit from childhood a life sentence? 

Can we go from an Anxious or Avoidant attachment style to earning the holy grail of close connection in human relationships as an adult – earned (and learned) SECURE attachment? 

Here to explore the answer to this massive question is Clinical Psychotherapist and Attachment Expert - Jennifer Nurick.

She is the founder of the Psychotherapy Central Instagram page, a community of 180K like-minded seekers, a Director of the International Energetic Healing Association (IEHA),  

She is a Mother to two beautiful children, a wife, daughter, sister and friend.

She has a Master’s Degree in Applied Psychotherapy and Counselling.

She is also the author of Healing Your Anxious Attachment which was only released in February this year.

This episode was in front of 15 girls from the DATEABILITY Community who asked Jen specific questions about their own attachment journey, like:

1. How can I be less afraid of rejection? 
2. While you're single and practicing becoming more secure, what are ways that you can practice being secure with friends or family so that in a relationship it becomes easier? 
3. How do I manage myself when temporarily parting ways from my secure partner is causing distress?
4. What is one daily thing I can do to move from avoidant to secure? 

Specific to the pre-commitment DATING journey though, Jen dives deep into:

• How your single girl/guy season is the BEST time to work on healing your inner child, and the different parts of yourself.
• Why co-regulation is the easiest way to achieving self-regulation (which is harder to do alone).
• How Attachment is on a spectrum, and anxious and avoidant parts are very common.
• How every couple in the early dating stages experiences the "Attachment Dance".
• The importance of paying attention to what is happening in your nervous system when a new love interest ghosts you out of the blue.
• Why it's not realistic to expect yourself to be "fully healed" before getting into a relationship, and what to do instead!

Given this is such a rich discussion, I would love to know what has come up for you. Email me at jessica@dateability.io.