If you've had sex in the past but are re-evaluating this decision, this episode is for you.

Or if you're wondering....

• How do I manage my high sex drive while I'm single and wanting to save myself for marriage?
• How do I set boundaries with a new boyfriend and communicate respectfully that I want to wait?

I go into loads of detail about this in my group coaching program ROMANTIC INTELLIGENCE 101 (see below for how to get in!)

Now, we live in a culture that assumes virginity is:

- Something to be lost by a certain age OR

- Embarrassing, like a shameful secret OR

- Impossible to still hold onto by age 30!

Alas let me SELL you a new philosophy about sex - choosing to develop self-control is radical self-love, and that is God's gift to you through His Son Jesus Christ.

Yes - I believe the trajectory of your life will turn out better if you decide to wait until MARRIAGE to have sex with ONE person and practice with them!!

But I also believe that personal conviction is EVERYTHING. So if you listen to this podcast and are STILL not sold, no harm no foul.

I argue in this "audio essay" that sex is much better if you wait until marriage because:

1. Your body, soul and spirit will bond to the safest person for your long term future as a woman and
2. You limit the risk of getting the wrong woman pregnant as a man.
3. You will give your future children stability, an intact family life, a higher likelihood of secure attachment and assumed self-worth (instead of having to claw their way out of identity confusion from not knowing who their biological Father is).
4. Sex within marriage is a representation of Christ's love, promise and supernatural BLESSINGS for you.
5. Through making this hard-fought choice, you are more likely to enter [what I like to call] the Sexual Promised Land!!!

Sources:

Dawn Maslar "The Love Biologist" TED Talk - https://youtu.be/eyq2Wo4eUDg

Ian Rowe, Institute of Family Studies, "Marriage is still the best way to bond a Father to his children" -  

https://ifstudies.org/blog/marriage-is-still-the-best-way-to-bond-a-father-to-his-children 

Tom Holland, Interview ‘Christianity gave women a dignity that no previous sexual dispensation had offered’ -

https://scroll.in/article/953904/christianity-gave-women-a-dignity-that-no-previous-sexual-dispensation-had-offered-tom-holland

John Piper "Why Save Sex For Marriage" - https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/why-save-sex-for-marriage

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