Cognitive Distortions: 🧠 "Should" Statements

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The Cognitive Correction

Manchoon Samchoon

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The Cognitive Correction dives deep into the world of your thoughts, shining a light on common cognitive distortions – those sneaky mental traps that can skew your perspective and impact your well-being. Learn practical strategies and tools to identify, challenge, and ultimately correct these unhelpful thinking patterns. As you gain clarity and control over your thoughts, we also provide crucial, evidence-based information and expert insights on how to safely and responsibly taper off mental health medications when the time is right, always in close consultation with your healthcare provider.

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Cognitive Distortions: 🧠 "Should" Statements

The Cognitive Correction

31 minutes 58 seconds

5 months ago

Cognitive Distortions: 🧠 "Should" Statements

Are your thoughts causing unnecessary stress and impacting your relationships? This episode explores cognitive distortions, which are unhelpful, irrational thinking patterns that don't accurately represent reality. These mental habits can fuel conflict, heighten emotional reactivity, and damage trust over time.

We delve into common distortions such as:

All-or-Nothing Thinking (seeing things in extremes)
Overgeneralization (drawing sweeping conclusions from limited evidence)
Catastrophizing (anticipating the worst possible outcomes)
Personalization (taking undue responsibility for events)
Mind Reading (assuming you know what others think)
Discounting the Positive (minimizing positive experiences)
Emotional Reasoning (believing emotions reflect objective reality)
Labeling (assigning global negative labels)
Fortune Telling (predicting negative outcomes without evidence)

A particularly impactful distortion discussed is "Should Statements" (also called "shoulding" or "musturbation"). This involves imposing rigid, unrealistic expectations on yourself, others, or how the world "should" be. Learn how this thinking pattern can lead to feelings of guilt, inadequacy, frustration, anger, and damaged relationships. It can create a judgmental mindset and make compromise difficult.

The good news is that by becoming aware of these patterns, you can challenge them and choose more balanced, reality-based thoughts. This process, known as cognitive restructuring, is a key element of therapies like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). Identifying and disputing these thoughts helps build psychological flexibility – the ability to consider multiple perspectives.

Tune in to understand how cognitive distortions, especially "should" statements, may be impacting your emotional well-being and relationships, and discover strategies to break free from these unhelpful thinking patterns.

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