Send us a text In this episode, we’re going way back—to puberty. That awkward, confusing, and wildly transformative time when our bodies, hormones, and desires started to come online. We open up about our own journeys through sexual awakening—our first experiences with masturbation, curiosity about our changing bodies, and how those early moments shaped our adult sexuality. We discuss how puberty sets the stage for our sex drive, pleasure responses, and even the ways we attach to others....

Send us a text Let’s be real—some people say they’re looking for a relationship when what they really want is sex. And that’s okay. In this episode, we break down the stigma around simply wanting to meet your sexual needs without pretending it’s something deeper. We talk about how honesty—both with yourself and your partners—creates freedom, not shame. Whether you’re exploring hookups, fuck buddies, or friends with benefits, it’s about owning what you want right now instead of hiding behind t...

Send us a text In this episode, we call out the excuses, the pills, and the misplaced blame around erectile dysfunction. ED has become the go-to explanation for men’s sexual underperformance—but what if most of it isn’t physical at all? Ryan makes the case that if you can ever get it up, you can always get it up. The real issue isn’t below the belt—it’s in your head. We unpack how overthinking, shame, and fear of failure can sabotage arousal faster than any medical condition ever could. ...

Send us a text Ever notice how first-time sex feels amazing? We all know someone who swears their first time with every new partner is mind-blowing. But here’s the thing—first-time sex is almost always good. The bar is low, the oxytocin is high, and the brain is drunk on novelty. In this episode, we share a real-life story of someone who keeps getting hooked after the first night and uncover what’s really happening beneath the sheets. We review the oxytocin effect—that powerful bonding hormon...

Send us a text They call it the love hormone for a reason. In this episode, we explore the oxytocin effect—how this powerful neurochemical shapes your connection, trust, bonding, and even post-sex emotions. Ryan and Lexie unpack why oxytocin hits differently for women and men, why it can make some people attach too quickly (or not at all), and how to build a relationship that honors this chemistry without being ruled by it. From the science of cuddling and orgasm to the real-life stories that...

Send us a text In this episode, we cover dom and sub energy. Outside of sex, feminine and masculine energy needs to be fluid and balanced within each partner to keep relationships thriving. But inside the bedroom, polarity—dom/sub dynamics—is best for compatibility.

Send us a text Your sexual health isn’t just about the here and now—it’s about staying vibrant, connected, and fulfilled throughout every stage of life. In this episode, we talk about what it takes to stay in good sexual shape well into your later years. We talk openly about the impact of menopause, testosterone loss, and the changes that come with aging—and more importantly, what you can do about them. From mindset shifts to practical strategies, we share ideas that can help you maintain a t...

Send us a text Foreplay doesn’t start when you touch each other—it starts the moment your last sex session ends. In this episode, we explore how Foreplay All Day™ shows up in real life. From lingering kisses in the morning to playful texts during the day, to the small choices we make in how we show up for each other, we share real-world examples that keep the spark alive long before sex is even on the table. We talk about why you can’t just switch from dishes and deadlines to sex and expect f...

Send us a text Who really controls our sexuality—and why? In this episode, we pull back the curtain on how patriarchy shapes sexual norms, gender expectations, and even the stories we tell ourselves about desire and pleasure. From double standards in sexual freedom to the policing of women’s bodies, we explore the hidden systems that dictate what’s deemed acceptable. We also dive into how these power dynamics silence authentic expression, limit pleasure, and fuel shame—and most importan...

Send us a text Why do some people—without trying—pull attention like a gravitational force, while others, just as beautiful, go unnoticed? In this episode, we dive into the intangible but unmistakable energy of sex appeal. We’re not talking about push-up bras, six-packs, or thirst traps. We’re talking about the vibe—the body language, the presence, the openness, the subtle energetic “yes” that invites attention without saying a word. If you’ve ever wondered why certain people seem to exude se...

Send us a text A grown-ass woman being shamed in public for what she's wearing... This episode is a full-on truth bomb about how society polices bodies, labels sexual energy as “inappropriate,” and completely misses the point. We dive into the difference between sexualization and oversexualization, and how context, consent, and control write the script. Lexie shares her experience, and Ryan brings the research receipts—what the APA says, what the objectification experts found, and why m...

Send us a text How do you keep the fire burning when you’ve been with the same person for years—or even decades? In this episode, we dive into Esther Perel’s wisdom on sustaining passion in long-term relationships. We reveal the three things erotic couples do for keeping desire alive and explore how to apply them in real life (yes, even when life feels more like carpools and deadlines than candlelight and lingerie). Whether you’re looking to reignite the flames or want to future-proof y...

Send us a text You’ve seen it. You’ve probably lived it. The classic relationship/sex trope—where women seem desperate for a relationship and men seem desperate for sex—playing out in real time. In this episode, we share two fresh, real-world examples we just witnessed that had us shaking our heads. We break down how these default drives lead people to skip the critical steps (like our 7 Bridges) and jump headfirst into mismatched relationships. The result? Regret, unmet needs, and that “what...

Send us a text Why is it totally normal for men to walk around shirtless—but women get censored, scolded, or even arrested for the same thing? In this episode, we chat about the double standard around the human chest. We all have nipples—so why are some considered scandalous while others are just...there? We unpack the roots of breast sexualization, how it varies across cultures, countries, and time, and why society still polices the female-presenting body. From media to law to religion, we’r...

Send us a text In this episode, we discuss the real culprits behind low libido in women: the crushing weight of the mental load, hormonal shifts and body changes (including menopause), and the long-lasting impact of sexual trauma, abuse, and rape. We also explore the lover/mother trope, a common scenario where women act as caregivers to their male partners while simultaneously losing attraction for them. Do you often feel like your male partner is just another one of the kids? Talk about a cl...

Send us a text Ever felt like you're coming in fourth place in your own relationship? In this episode, we’re calling out a common dynamic that quietly kills connection: when your partner isn’t your top priority. We dive into why so many people say things like “my kids come first” or “work is just crazy right now” — and how those priorities, while understandable, can leave a partner feeling unseen and undervalued. Ryan shares a couple of real-life examples where he found himself behind not jus...

Send us a text From late-night hookups to long-term partners, relationships come in all shapes, vibes, and complexities. In this episode, we break down the real-life differences between hookups, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, and actual partners. What makes each one work—or not? How do you know when something shifts from casual to committed (or when it really shouldn’t)? We share personal stories from our own experiences to unpack the pros, cons, and everything in between. Whether you'r...

Send us a text On this episode, we discuss why this seemingly innocent first-contact question can derail authentic connection before it even begins. We talk about the pressure to define your entire romantic future over coffee, why answering too specifically can attract chameleons instead of real compatibility, and how to stay grounded in your truth without oversharing. Plus, we share our own experiences about navigating this question and why a little mystery might be your best filter. If you’...

Send us a text Carrying mental load isn’t just exhausting—it’s arousal’s silent killer. In this episode, we unpack how the never-ending cognitive effort of planning, monitoring, assigning, managing, and emotional caretaking can shut down the body’s ability to feel turned on. When the brain is overloaded with a constant to-know list, there’s no space for desire to thrive. We explore the neurological and emotional effects of mental load on sexual response, especially for women, who've been soci...

Send us a text In this episode, we put The 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship to the ultimate test—real life. Ryan opens up about the relationship that inspired the entire 7 Bridges framework and walks through a full "bridge inspection" using this past connection. Was there attraction? A bias for communication? Emotional availability? A safe haven? Sexual compatibility? Intimacy? Using personal storytelling and practical examples, we show exactly how to evaluate a relationship—past or present...