The Role of Attachment Styles in Relationships
Guest: Ryan Holley | Host: Brian Comstock
🎙️ The Brian Comstock Podcast
Summary:
In this insightful episode, Brian Comstock sits down with Ryan Holley—a U.S. Air Force veteran and relationship coach—to explore the deep emotional dynamics of relationships. They unpack attachment styles, boundaries, self-awareness, emotional healing, and the path to lasting personal growth.
Ryan shares his journey from leading large teams in the military to helping others navigate pain, confusion, and self-doubt in their relationships. Together, they explore how childhood experiences shape adult attachment patterns and how recognizing these patterns can break cycles of dysfunction.
If you’re on a journey of healing or seeking clarity in your relationships, this episode is packed with practical tools and powerful insights.
Topics Covered:
Understanding attachment styles and their impact
The importance of self-awareness and accountability
Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries
Overcoming fear and people-pleasing patterns
Reprogramming the subconscious for emotional growth
Self-compassion and healing shame
How to stop earning love and start embodying it
Takeaways:
Knowing your attachment style is key to building healthy connections
Boundaries protect your energy, not punish others
Love is not something you earn—it’s something you allow
Self-worth and healing go hand-in-hand
Supportive coaches and therapists challenge you, not coddle you
Soundbites:
🗣 “You have to own your own stuff.”
🗣 “Boundaries are about your limits.”
🗣 “Love should not have to be earned.”
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics
02:52 The Journey to Understanding Relationships
05:55 The Role of Attachment Styles
11:49 Navigating Self-Awareness and Accountability
15:59 Establishing Healthy Boundaries
19:43 Overcoming Fear in Relationships
26:23 Reprogramming the Subconscious for Emotional Growth
27:53 Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Impact
29:09 Identifying and Attracting Different Attachment Styles
34:57 Boundaries vs. Ultimatums: A Key Distinction
36:59 Navigating the Transition to Healthy Relationships
44:35 Deep Self-Reflection for Lasting Change
48:46 Finding the Right Support: Coaches and Therapists
52:24 The Importance of Self-Worth and Healing Shame
Guest Info:
Ryan Holley is a relationship coach, veteran, and father of four. He helps clients stop second-guessing themselves and start trusting their own clarity.
🌐 Website: coachryanllc.com
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Presented by Brian Comstock, this podcast offers insight-packed episodes to help you heal from narcissistic abuse, break free from toxic cycles, and reclaim your power. My mission is simple: to help you transform your pain into clarity, confidence, and purpose.
Keywords:
relationships, attachment styles, self-awareness, boundaries, emotional health, personal growth, accountability, healing, coaching, mental health
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