Maybe you've convinced yourself you can figure this out on your own. You've been listening to podcasts, reading books, and telling yourself that once your husband gets his act together, you'll feel better. But here's the uncomfortable truth: your brain is keeping you stuck in a cycle you don't even realize you're in. Just like Katie thought she was riding perfectly until her trainer pointed out her hands were half an inch off, you might think you're healing – but you don't know what you don't know. And without someone who's been exactly where you are showing you the way, you'll keep riding in circles thinking you're making progress.

In this episode, Katie shares her journey back to horseback riding lessons and the humbling realization that she needed a trainer to see what she couldn't see herself. She breaks down why your brain is giving you every excuse in the book to avoid getting help (spoiler: it's trying to keep you "safe" in your familiar pain), and why support from someone outside your marriage is absolutely critical for your healing. You'll discover why connecting with other women who understand betrayal is the most transformational part of healing, and get a practical challenge to take one step this week toward getting the support you desperately need.