If you're spiraling because your husband lied to you again, feeling angry that he relapsed, or beating yourself up for checking his phone when you "know better" – you're caught in what I call the Shouldn't Trap. It's that sneaky voice in parentheses saying (he shouldn't be lying), (I shouldn't be feeling this way), (this shouldn't be happening). And here's the truth: that little word "shouldn't" is causing you more pain than whatever's actually happening in your reality.

In this episode, I'm exposing the hidden trap that's keeping you stuck in cycles of judgment, criticism, and suffering. I'll show you why fighting against what IS only makes everything worse, and teach you the powerful question that instantly shifts you from resistance to peace. When you learn to drop the "shouldn't" and ask yourself "Why does it make so much sense that this is happening?" – everything changes. You'll stop exhausting yourself fighting reality and start finding meaning, compassion, and actual solutions.

Free resource "The First Step to Heal from Porn Betrayal": https://thechristianbetrayalcoach.com/firststep