In this raw and revealing episode of The Bare Collective, Jazzy and Larissa dive into one of the most common emotional traps in modern dating: falling for potential over reality.

Why do so many women stay in relationships hoping he’ll “become” the man they see in their mind? Why do we cling to the fantasy instead of accepting what’s right in front of us?

This conversation is a deep call to self-reflection. We explore the emotional cost of trying to change someone, the illusion of control in love, and how our relationships mirror our own unmet needs and healing journeys. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck between who someone is and who you hope they could be, this episode will hit deep. And it might just set you free.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Dating potential is a form of emotional self-abandonment

• Wanting someone to change can be a distraction from your own growth

• Acceptance is the foundation of real love

• Fantasy is seductive—but reality is what sets you free

• You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change

This one might feel uncomfortable but clarity always is, before it’s liberating.