Harry shares how a last-minute decision to attend a kink retreat opened up a deeper experience of asking for what he wants—and receiving it. He explores the grief underneath old strategies for getting love, and the safety of a culture built on attuned consent. Samek reflects on how grief softened his system and made space for stillness, intimacy, and effortless coaching. Together, they explore what happens when there’s no strategy left but truth.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Harry’s week: Earthdance, leaving a crush, and joining a kink retreat
09:00 – What real consent feels like and why it builds trust
14:00 – Samek on grief, coaching, and letting the moment lead
22:00 – Grief as integration and remembering through presence
34:00 – The beauty and heartbreak of not being each other
38:00 – Parenting your own shame and longing
41:00 – When obligation and missing someone coexist
42:50 – Closing + Attunement Residency plug