Welcome to The Anxious to Secure PODCAST! 🎙️
If you’re anxiously attached, want to feel empowered without CHASING your emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner, and are ready to FINALLY become securely attached, this show is for you. 🤍
My name is Jula, and I’m a certified life coach. It took me 30 years to realize how my Anxious Attachment Style and Relationship Anxiety impacted my relationships, and just 6 months to transform into a more secure attachment style.
If you want to learn all my secret strategies grab your coffee and headphones🎧 and take me for your walk.
Tuesdays: I’ll be busting a relationship myth.
Thursdays: I’ll dive into the most pressing relationship questions and powerful methods—from rewiring your mind, anti-anxiety tools, and actionable steps to take right now.
🤍 Jump on the Anxious To Secure Waitlist and get my BLUEPRINT on how I became securely attached in just 6 months.
😱📱 Grab Your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Handle It When Your Partner Doesn’t Text Back.
🤍 Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less with my TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course.
🤍 Instagram: @the.anxious to.secure.coach
🤍 KICK off your Journey with a 90 min 1:1 VIP SOS Session
Ready to hear ALL my secrets how I became secure within just 6 months??
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Welcome to The Anxious to Secure PODCAST! 🎙️
If you’re anxiously attached, want to feel empowered without CHASING your emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner, and are ready to FINALLY become securely attached, this show is for you. 🤍
My name is Jula, and I’m a certified life coach. It took me 30 years to realize how my Anxious Attachment Style and Relationship Anxiety impacted my relationships, and just 6 months to transform into a more secure attachment style.
If you want to learn all my secret strategies grab your coffee and headphones🎧 and take me for your walk.
Tuesdays: I’ll be busting a relationship myth.
Thursdays: I’ll dive into the most pressing relationship questions and powerful methods—from rewiring your mind, anti-anxiety tools, and actionable steps to take right now.
🤍 Jump on the Anxious To Secure Waitlist and get my BLUEPRINT on how I became securely attached in just 6 months.
😱📱 Grab Your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Handle It When Your Partner Doesn’t Text Back.
🤍 Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less with my TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course.
🤍 Instagram: @the.anxious to.secure.coach
🤍 KICK off your Journey with a 90 min 1:1 VIP SOS Session
Ready to hear ALL my secrets how I became secure within just 6 months??
92: Too much ❤️🔥 masculine energy? how it triggers your ANXIOUS attachment and heal
The Anxious To Secure PODCAST
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3 weeks ago
92: Too much ❤️🔥 masculine energy? how it triggers your ANXIOUS attachment and heal
Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
Too Much Masculine Energy? The Hidden Link to Your ANXIOUS Attachment
You chase, they pull away.
You panic, they withdraw. It’s exhausting. 🧨
Ever catch yourself texting again even though you already asked if they’re okay?
Or over-explaining something you said just to keep them from pulling away?
Or maybe you plan three dates in one week because you’re scared they might lose interest? If any of that sounds like you… you’re not alone. And it’s not your fault.
In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden connection between masculine and feminine energy and anxious attachment patterns the part no one talks about.
You’ll discover:
Why anxious attachment isn’t actually feminine energy
How both anxious and avoidant partners get stuck in survival masculine energy
The nervous system secrets behind your tiny fight-flight reactions in love
Practical ways to rebalance your energy so you feel safe, grounded, and fully yourself
Real examples for anxious women and men showing what “secure energy” really looks like
By the end, you’ll know how to:
Pause before reacting
Notice your micro-chasing behaviors
Reconnect with your natural energy balance
Break the anxious-avoidant rollercoaster for good
Stop overthinking.
Stop panicking.
Start holding space for yourself and your partner in a way that actually works.
Hit play and start seeing the hidden energy dynamics that are running your relationships and how to finally take back your calm and confidence in love. 🎧
🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
CHAPTER:
00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Energy Dynamics02:46 What Are These Energies Really?04:20 The big myth: feminine = anxious, masculine = avoidant07:30 The Nervous System Connection09:44 Finding The Perfect Balance (with the 80/20 rule)13:58 Breaking The Cycle14:31 How to support your Avoidant Partner16:10 For The Anxious Attached Men21:14 Real Transformation22:53 5 STEP ACTION STEPS TO REBALANCE28:21 Reminder + Summary
Listen back to EPISODE 46:
"How to Heal Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 Steps)"
Spotify: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-enxxw-18a55d4
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uR3XhGPCJY&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=41
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
The Anxious To Secure PODCAST
Welcome to The Anxious to Secure PODCAST! 🎙️
If you’re anxiously attached, want to feel empowered without CHASING your emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner, and are ready to FINALLY become securely attached, this show is for you. 🤍
My name is Jula, and I’m a certified life coach. It took me 30 years to realize how my Anxious Attachment Style and Relationship Anxiety impacted my relationships, and just 6 months to transform into a more secure attachment style.
If you want to learn all my secret strategies grab your coffee and headphones🎧 and take me for your walk.
Tuesdays: I’ll be busting a relationship myth.
Thursdays: I’ll dive into the most pressing relationship questions and powerful methods—from rewiring your mind, anti-anxiety tools, and actionable steps to take right now.
🤍 Jump on the Anxious To Secure Waitlist and get my BLUEPRINT on how I became securely attached in just 6 months.
😱📱 Grab Your Free Guide: 5 Steps to Handle It When Your Partner Doesn’t Text Back.
🤍 Stop Obsessing Over “No Replies” in 21 days or less with my TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course.
🤍 Instagram: @the.anxious to.secure.coach
🤍 KICK off your Journey with a 90 min 1:1 VIP SOS Session
Ready to hear ALL my secrets how I became secure within just 6 months??