Jealousy is one of the most triggering emotions in relationships — and one of the most misunderstood.
In this episode, trauma-informed somatic marriage coach Becky Aste joins Valerie to unpack what’s really happening beneath jealousy — and why it’s not something to get rid of, but something to listen to.
Together, they explore:
✨ What happens to trust and connection when jealousy goes unaddressed
✨ Why telling yourself “don’t be jealous” never works
✨ How jealousy impacts your sense of safety and self-worth
✨ The first somatic steps to take when jealousy rises in your body
✨ How to talk about jealousy in a way that deepens connection instead of creating conflict
If you’ve ever felt hijacked by jealousy or blamed yourself for feeling “too much,” this conversation will help you understand the nervous system roots & how to turn jealousy into an opportunity for healing and intimacy. 🦋
Other podcast episodes that were recorded with Becky on this podcast:
Heal your abandonment wound, improve your relationship, and overcome your fear of death with Becky Aste: https://open.spotify.com/episode/73saII22wTvNAwhR7BSoKZ?si=pPPpjbD6SIucgeLcqozZ7w
From Frozen to Flee: Healing the Freeze response in your relationships with Becky Aste: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7rBXXGG2c7oiTYinh2rsgP?si=IgJmyjJoQ1CkHNcjXgSNLg
Me as a guest on Becky's Podcast: Decoding your marriage through attachment theory: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0BkmnrgrmqJVbnxXrobfLA?si=-bfKiMFcTXi6fJbODa4pDQ
Connect with Becky on Instagram Here: https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste/