Why does it feel like love is always just out of reach? In this episode, I’m joined by somatic relationship coach Lindsey Lockett to dive deep into one of the most magnetic—and most painful—relationship dynamics: the anxious-avoidant loop. Together, we explore the real emotions behind “loving too hard” and the heartbreaking moments when the person you love starts to pull away.

We unpack powerful questions, like:
💔 How can someone tell they’re in an anxious-avoidant loop vs. just in a relationship with different needs?
💔 What did it feel like in your body when you were caught in that push-pull cycle—and what shifted in your healing journey?
💔 Was there ever a moment you realized that healing didn’t just mean getting the other person to show up—but actually learning to show up for yourself?
💔 What are some of the most heartbreaking beliefs that keep avoidant partners from fully receiving love?
💔 What’s going on beneath the surface for the avoidant partner when they’re pulling away?
💔 What does it look like to stop blaming the other person and start tending to your own emotional landscape?
💔 What boundaries or practices help break the anxious-avoidant loop without shaming either partner?
💔 Can this dynamic actually become healthy—or is it always a sign that something’s unworkable?
💔 What would you say to the person listening who feels stuck in the pain of this pattern but still deeply loves their partner?

In a vulnerable twist, Lindsey coaches me in real time through a personal dynamic that mirrors the anxious-avoidant cycle—and what unfolds is raw, healing, and deeply validating for anyone who's ever felt caught in love that feels both consuming and confusing.

If you’ve ever felt like you love too much or need too much—or if you’ve been the one to pull away when it gets too close—this episode is for you.

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