What if the very things you call “too much” or “broken” are actually your nervous system’s way of keeping you safe?

In this powerful conversation with trauma expert Tim Fletcher, we dive deep into the truth about complex trauma (CPTSD) — how it physically reshapes the brain, impacts identity, and wires us to chase love that feels unsafe. Together we unpack:

✨ Why a delayed text or a change in tone can feel overwhelming when you have CPTSD ✨ Big T vs. little T trauma and how both leave lasting imprints ✨ Why people with anxious attachment are drawn to emotionally unavailable partners (and why healthy love feels “boring”) ✨ How trauma bonds mirror addiction and keep us stuck in cycles of chaos ✨ The role of co-regulation and how to relearn self-soothing + safety ✨ Healing core wounds and tools for managing triggers and emotions ✨ What life looks like if you never do the healing work — and the freedom that comes when you do

If you’ve ever wondered why love feels like walking on eggshells, why secure partners trigger the “ick,” or how trauma keeps shaping your choices long after the past is over — this episode will give you the answers (and the hope) you’ve been searching for.

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