What happens when the same control and independence that make you powerful in the world start to quietly sabotage your relationships?

In this week’s episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie Rubin sits down with Shilpa Cacho — a love coach and mentor who helps women shift out of control and back into connection, so they can inspire their partners to rise instead of shut down.

Together, they unpack:
✨ How being in control everywhere else can leak into your relationships
✨ The subtle ways women emasculate their partners without realizing it
✨ And how to shift these patterns so you feel safe to let go — and your partner feels trusted, respected, and deeply connected to you again.

We explore powerful questions like:
💭 A lot of women pride themselves on being independent, organized, and in control — but how can that “control” energy actually spill into relationships in ways that hurt intimacy?
💭 What are some of the subtle ways women emasculate their partners — even when they think they’re just being “helpful” or “taking initiative”?
💭 Why do so many women today unconsciously take on the “masculine role” in relationships, and what toll does that take on connection?
💭 Can you share a story from your coaching practice — or even your own life — where a woman thought she was “doing the right thing” by taking control, but it actually created distance in her relationship?
💭 For women, what’s the hidden cost of always being the one “in control”? How does it drain them emotionally, mentally, or even physically?
💭 For the woman listening who’s realizing, “Wow, I might be doing this without even knowing,” what are the first tiny shifts she can make today?
💭 And what conversations can women have with their partners to invite them into leadership — without it turning into blame or criticism?

If you’ve ever found yourself correcting, managing, or “helping” your partner — this conversation will help you understand what’s really driving those impulses, and how to reconnect to your feminine energy without losing your power.

👉 Tune in now to learn how to stop leading from control… and start leading with trust.

Connect with Shilpa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shilpacacho/

Connect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/