Unfiltered wisdom on life and growing your relationship with God and your significant other. We're a married couple with over 16 years of experience, sharing our stories of overcoming hard things, including cheating, death of family members, parenting, business and more to grow closer together and closer to God everyday. Discover practical tips for building a strong spiritual foundation, better communication, and building a loving, lasting relationship, all while depending on and giving glory to Jesus for the strength and guidance along the way. We hope you enjoy and we'll see you in the comments!
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Unfiltered wisdom on life and growing your relationship with God and your significant other. We're a married couple with over 16 years of experience, sharing our stories of overcoming hard things, including cheating, death of family members, parenting, business and more to grow closer together and closer to God everyday. Discover practical tips for building a strong spiritual foundation, better communication, and building a loving, lasting relationship, all while depending on and giving glory to Jesus for the strength and guidance along the way. We hope you enjoy and we'll see you in the comments!
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to The Side Chick (Heal & Take Your Power Back After Cheating)
The ANTD Podcast
21 minutes
4 months ago
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to The Side Chick (Heal & Take Your Power Back After Cheating)
In Episode 58 of The ANTD Podcast, Amee and D dive deep into the uncomfortable reality of comparison after betrayal — especially when it comes to the side chick. From social media stalking to subtle mimicry, we unpack why the “other woman” often tries to act like the wife and how insecurity fuels the need to compete. You’ll learn why she’s not your competition, how to stop obsessing over her, and the truth behind why she wants your position, not your man.
Amee shares her personal struggle with comparison, waking up and falling asleep checking the side chick’s page — until prayer shifted everything. If you're tired of giving her power over your peace, this episode will help you break free and take your identity back. Forgiveness, boundaries, and faith collide here to help you heal for real.
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⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 – “She didn’t want your man… she wanted your position.”
00:16 – Why talking about side chicks ruffles feathers
01:03 – Key Point 1: She sees you as the blueprint
02:25 – Mimicking the wife: Imitation or competition?
03:00 – “She wanted to win — not be with you”
04:02 – How comparison fueled the obsession
06:11 – Key Point 2: Insecurity breeds mimicry
07:14 – God revealed how broken she really was
08:15 – “You gave something to someone that was only mine”
08:52 – Starting a completely new relationship after betrayal
10:15 – Amee’s faith foundation during the pain
11:00 – If it was for you, God would have given it to you
11:42 – Key Point 3: He painted you as the standard
13:33 – “He didn’t love himself — so how could he love me?”
14:10 – The enemy uses comparison to destroy peace
15:13 – The wife is the covenant. The side chick is the counterfeit.
15:58 – How Amee started praying for the side chick
16:44 – Social media obsession, clues, and the spiral
17:43 – Prayer broke the comparison cycle
18:22 – The Christmas party: the moment Amee realized she was healing
19:02 – Challenge: Pray for the other woman when the triggers come
20:02 – Boundaries, no contact, and true healing
21:00 – Final recap of the 3 points + prayer challenge
The ANTD Podcast
Unfiltered wisdom on life and growing your relationship with God and your significant other. We're a married couple with over 16 years of experience, sharing our stories of overcoming hard things, including cheating, death of family members, parenting, business and more to grow closer together and closer to God everyday. Discover practical tips for building a strong spiritual foundation, better communication, and building a loving, lasting relationship, all while depending on and giving glory to Jesus for the strength and guidance along the way. We hope you enjoy and we'll see you in the comments!
