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No Elbows on the Table—And Other Ways to Stop Being Rude in Marriage

What does rudeness look like in marriage—and how do we stop doing it? In this episode of The Abundantly Expectant Marriage, Rachel and Ron unpack what it means that “love is not rude and does not demand its own way.” From snappy tones to power struggles over who gets the final say, this episode is full of real-life stories (including one about the wrong coffee order 😬), biblical truth, and practical ways to cultivate honor, humility, and mutual respect in your marriage. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about table manners!

Scripture References:

• 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 - “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
• Philippians‬ ‭2‬:‭4‬ ‭NLT‬‬ - “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”
• Proverbs‬ ‭15‬:‭1‬ ‭NLT‬‬ - “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”

Remember: Marriage takes intentionality, and small actions lead to big changes! Keep God at the center, and watch your love grow deeper than ever before.

Resource List:

Here are some excellent Christian marriage books that you can recommend to your listeners, complete with links for purchase:

• Renewed Legacy: A 30-Day Journey to Save Your Marriage and Become a Spiritual Leader: By Ron Cool
  • This journal and study plan have been crafted with a deep sense of purpose, a heartfelt dedication, and a commitment to transformation. It's a journey that goes beyond the words on these pages; it's a journey to renew and reclaim your legacy.
• The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
  • This bestseller focuses on understanding and expressing love through five key "languages" to strengthen emotional connections in marriage.
• Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas
  • This thought-provoking book emphasizes how marriage can help individuals grow closer to God while growing together as a couple.
• Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
  • Based on biblical principles, this book explores the dynamics of love and respect in building a thriving marriage.
• For Women Only / For Men Only Series by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn
  • This series offers gender-specific insights into the needs and perspectives of spouses, helping couples understand each other better.
• You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity by Francis and Lisa Chan
  • This book challenges couples to see marriage as a way to glorify God and focus on eternal perspectives.

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• Website: www.newpathnewyou.com
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Connect with Rachel Cool:

• Website: www.rachelmcool.com
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Links to Focus On The Family: 

• Website: www.focusonthefamily.com
• Dr. Danny Huerta's Book: 7 Traits of Effective Parenting by Dr. Danny Huerta (VP of Parenting & Youth)