For many women, the struggle with pornography comes with deep shame—and silence from the church.

Ben and Jara, our Women’s Director, talk about the shame women carry in the church, the impact of porn on identity, and how God’s grace redefines freedom.

In this episode of the 423 Podcast, we explore the idea of the inner child—the younger parts of us that carry wounds from past trauma, pain, and broken relationships. These unresolved hurts often shape the way we live, love, and struggle today. Together, we talk about why naming and nurturing these parts of ourselves is vital to recovery, and how Christ invites us to bring them into the light with compassion, curiosity, and care. Healing happens as we learn to see our inner child the way Jesus does, and as we walk this journey in the safety of Christ and community.

So much of our healing journey depends on being witnessed—seen and heard—in safe, grace-filled community. In this episode, we explore why being known by others is not just a nice addition to recovery, but absolutely essential for uncovering the deeper “why” behind unwanted sexual behaviors.

Together, we’ll talk about how community helps us move past shame, discover the parts of ourselves that need love and compassion, and ultimately learn how to receive the love of Christ. As we practice being loved and loving others, we step into the heart of Jesus’ greatest commandment: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart… and love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37–39).

In Genesis, Adam and Eve walked in perfect intimacy with God—until sin fractured that connection. Fear replaced trust, shame replaced openness, and humanity has been searching for secure attachment ever since. In this episode, we explore how broken attachment drives us to sin against ourselves and others, why pornography offers such a potent but counterfeit intimacy, and how Christ-centered community begins the repair.

Welcome to Season 2 of the 423 Podcast. This season is dedicated to digging into what it really means to find your why. Why do we fall into the same patterns? What’s beneath the surface? When we start naming the deeper motivations that lead us toward sin, we also gain the clarity and strength to choose differently—living as the new creation we already are in Jesus.

In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Joel is joined by his wife Rachel Warneking to explore what recovery looks like—not just for the one struggling with addiction, but for the spouse who never saw this story coming. While previous episodes have focused on the recovery process from the perspective of the addicted partner, this conversation shifts the lens to the often-overlooked journey of the betrayed spouse.Rachel shares her own story of betrayal trauma, the disorienting impact of discovery, and the profound need for safety, stability, and presence in the aftermath. Together, Joel and Rachel unpack the relational cost of addiction, the importance of honest disclosure, and why recovery within marriage must include both voices and both hearts.Whether you’re a husband in recovery, a wife walking through the pain of betrayal, or a leader walking alongside couples, this episode offers a deeply human look at what it takes to rebuild trust, reality, and intimacy—together.

Many who struggle with pornography and unwanted sexual behavior can get stuck in the process of behavior management—but the roots often run much deeper. In this episode, we explore how childhood wounds, internal parts, and hidden “weights” from the past shape our present struggles. Drawing from Hebrews 12:1 and tools like Internal Family Systems and inner child work, we invite listeners to begin understanding their story with honesty, grace, and hope.

You are always being formed—every thought, habit, and response is shaping who you are becoming. In this episode, we explore what it means to live a life of intentional formation through discipleship to Jesus. Whether you realize it or not, you already have a "trellis"—a structure of daily patterns that’s forming your soul. For many, those practices are unknowingly feeding cycles of unwanted sexual behavior. Most people don’t fail to change because they don’t care—but because they never take action. Transformation requires more than awareness. It requires intentional practice and Spirit-empowered effort.423 Communities are men, women, and young people recovering from the impact of bad sexual choices. We are radically committed to helping others overcome sex addiction, heal spousal betrayal trauma and to stopping the spread of pornography in our families, churches, and cities around the world. Since the inception of our recovery program in September 2009, thousands of people have experienced progressive sexual sobriety and healing inside their relationships by joining a 423 community.If you want to start a 423 Community chapter in your city or church, please contact us at info@423Communities.org. We are here to help.

You are always being formed—every thought, habit, and response is shaping who you are becoming. In this episode, we explore what it means to live a life of intentional formation through discipleship to Jesus. Whether you realize it or not, you already have a "trellis"—a structure of daily patterns that’s forming your soul. For many, those practices are unknowingly feeding cycles of unwanted sexual behavior. Most people don’t fail to change because they don’t care—but because they never take action. Transformation requires more than awareness. It requires intentional practice and Spirit-empowered effort.

In this episode, we explore how recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors isn’t a solo race—it’s a shared journey with a "Witnessing Community" anchored in Christ. Drawing from Hebrews 12:1-2, we unpack how healing happens when we lay aside sin and shame together, fixing our eyes on Jesus as a unified body. Only in the context of loving, Christ-centered relationships can our deepest wounds begin to mend and our hearts learn to run freely toward the One who heals.

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In this episode of the 423 Podcast, we talk about why the Holy Spirit isn’t just helpful—He’s essential in our recovery journey. We explore how He brings conviction without condemnation, strengthens us from within, and leads us into truth, identity, and real freedom. Join us for a practical, hope-filled conversation on how we can walk with the Spirit daily and invite Him into every part of our healing.

You’ve left Egypt, but the desert is hard.
In this episode, we explore what it means to run the long race of sexual integrity — where daily fidelity, not just big moments, defines our freedom. Learn how God’s Word becomes the fuel for your endurance and the mirror that unveils your identity.

In this episode of the 423 Podcast, Ben and Joel discuss how following Jesus isn’t just about breaking free from sin—it’s about stepping into a new identity and purpose. We’re not just restored; we’re re-storied, no longer defined by shame but by God’s love. Recovery isn’t about trying harder—it’s about living in the abundant life Jesus offers.

In this episode of The 423 Podcast, we talk with Joel Warneking, Executive Director for 423 Communities.

We explore God’s deep compassion for those wrestling with sexual addiction and the wounds of abuse. Many struggle in silence, believing they are too broken for redemption—but the truth of the gospel speaks a different story. We unpack how God meets us in our shame, how His love calls us into restoration, and how community can be a place of healing rather than judgment. Whether you are personally walking this journey or supporting someone who is, this conversation will encourage you with hope, grace, and the unwavering truth that no one is beyond God's redeeming love.