In this final episode of Season Two, I work with Sarah as she explores the impact motherhood has had on her self-esteem and her career. Trained, as many women are, to put others first she now finds herself with an increasingly empty nest, time to spend on creative projects but a part of her that seems to sabotage this time. She has a novel to write but a mind full of limiting beliefs that stop her from being able to sit down and write.
With themes of co-dependency, empty nest adjustments and conflicting priorities this coaching conversation challenges the validity of the “shoulds” we live by and shows what happens when we start to see ourselves and our time in a new light.
If you are struggling to give yourself time for creative projects here’s what I suggest:
Put creative time in your diary, tell your family what you’re doing and guard that time like you would a small baby
Do business with the part of your brain telling you that you’re wasting time - you’re a human being, not a human doing
Be accountable to someone for your creative progress - get a mentor, join a creative group etc.
Enjoy the process and remember this is far more about enjoying the experience of being creative than it is about the output.
If you need to, take a class to improve your skills and confidence
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In this final episode of Season Two, I work with Sarah as she explores the impact motherhood has had on her self-esteem and her career. Trained, as many women are, to put others first she now finds herself with an increasingly empty nest, time to spend on creative projects but a part of her that seems to sabotage this time. She has a novel to write but a mind full of limiting beliefs that stop her from being able to sit down and write.
With themes of co-dependency, empty nest adjustments and conflicting priorities this coaching conversation challenges the validity of the “shoulds” we live by and shows what happens when we start to see ourselves and our time in a new light.
If you are struggling to give yourself time for creative projects here’s what I suggest:
Put creative time in your diary, tell your family what you’re doing and guard that time like you would a small baby
Do business with the part of your brain telling you that you’re wasting time - you’re a human being, not a human doing
Be accountable to someone for your creative progress - get a mentor, join a creative group etc.
Enjoy the process and remember this is far more about enjoying the experience of being creative than it is about the output.
If you need to, take a class to improve your skills and confidence
In this final episode of Season One, we hear Jo as she explores the impact three significant episodes of bullying have had on her and her confidence. We also explore magical thinking and how expecting other people to just be nice and behave in certain ways can seriously affect our self-esteem. If you’ve been mistreated by someone in the past and their words and actions still affect you please listen to this episode as it’s time for you to reclaim your power, as Jo decides to do during our coaching hour.
With themes of trauma, bullying, gaslighting and acceptance this coaching conversation also challenges the validity of the moral rules we expect others to follow.
If you are struggling to assert yourself against a bully here’s what to do:
Know that their need to dominate you come from their own fear and deep insecurities.
Know also that their mistreatment of you is about their stuff and is no reflection on you.
Notice the part of you lost in the fairness fantasy and do business with that voice. It’s not up to you how other people behave so stop expecting them to be nice!
Listen to what they say and don’t interrupt.
When they have finished state your case calmly and keep repeating your case using similar language. Repetition builds a wall of protection around you.
Walk away if you need to and, if this is a professional environment, report the bullying immediately to your HR department.
Tell Me Who You Really Are
In this final episode of Season Two, I work with Sarah as she explores the impact motherhood has had on her self-esteem and her career. Trained, as many women are, to put others first she now finds herself with an increasingly empty nest, time to spend on creative projects but a part of her that seems to sabotage this time. She has a novel to write but a mind full of limiting beliefs that stop her from being able to sit down and write.
With themes of co-dependency, empty nest adjustments and conflicting priorities this coaching conversation challenges the validity of the “shoulds” we live by and shows what happens when we start to see ourselves and our time in a new light.
If you are struggling to give yourself time for creative projects here’s what I suggest:
Put creative time in your diary, tell your family what you’re doing and guard that time like you would a small baby
Do business with the part of your brain telling you that you’re wasting time - you’re a human being, not a human doing
Be accountable to someone for your creative progress - get a mentor, join a creative group etc.
Enjoy the process and remember this is far more about enjoying the experience of being creative than it is about the output.
If you need to, take a class to improve your skills and confidence
