download on iTunes This week on Talking bout Practice, Billy Ray Stupendous and I are joined by cat gentlemen/dangerous Lotharios Peter and Brian to talk bout adventures and misadventures in love.  Should one bring porn to a date, just in case ?  How young is too young ?  If Billy Joel is not a dealbreaker, what is ? What are our ethical responsibilities to our Internet lovers ? Exactly how long is th long back end of love ? Once upon a time, these men did not know, but now they definitely do, and should you listen to all two and a half hours of this, so will you. (Length compounded by my accidental appending of a something like 9-minute-long song twice @ th end of th podcast.) Bone appetite Table of contents: 00:00  "Getting Older" performed by th Clean 04:29  Intros | What has been the worst date you've ever been on? | Brian's story Pt 1 06:59  How old were you when you got married ? 08:10  Brian's story Pt 2: th performance artist 16:19  Women are better @ shutting it down  17:42  Brian's story Pt 3: trapped two hours from home 20:37  Vegans are bad news 21:13  Brian's story Pt 4: porno mags 25:16  Threshold of psychological unattractiveness | projection of desire | "I need you to be decisive" 28:49  ASMR videos | conversing w/ a person who's no longer in yr life  34:21  Perfunctory rituals vs appreciating th moment 35:55  Bringing porn to dates | Peter's story Pt 1: th chief resident and th medical student | A lot of physicians are losers 43:51  Peter's story Pt 2: flustered by chopsticks 47:51  Baseline vulnerability | Do you like it when you feel nervous ? 51:20  Not currently dating, no intention to | being mindful of biological clocks 57:19  Shortcut questions | What's the difference between Internet dating & traditional dating? | Some heuristics work better than others 1:01:36  Being decisive in one's personal life & being on the same page re what you want 1:02:45  "The experience that women have of men in everyday life is largely a negative one" | on th usefulness of dating site filters | Eran's OKCupid profile is a beautiful thing 1:05:02  OKC, verbal abuse, & dick pics: a debate 1:26:07  Risk management | snapshot of Peter's flying cock 1:27:42  MZA bathroom break | on quitting OKC | "We're getting old for this technology" 1:29:51  On age differences 1:32:35  "What is your age floor for dating?" | "What are your baseline requirements?" | Peter bathroom break | no checklist | differential wisdom 1:41:13  The long view | differential rates of change | cameos: Brian's cat, Peter's cat | You can't predict th unpredictable 1:47:30  A tweet from Mark Leidner | "the parasite inside your brain that is forcing you to make more humans" | the spark vis-à-vis the back end of love 1:51:00  Why you need drugs | Claudia Sherman doesn't want to be to be another person's sherpa | Rubik cleanses his own anus 1:54:02  Dominance/submission compatibility 1:56:13  "Things could always be worse" | money, career, & class compatibility 2:01:03  Longest podcast, officially | a request for dick pics | reminiscence on boob shots in fuckyoucrew  2:04:49  A tweet re I Corinthians 13 (the bridesmaid's verse) | getting perspective on hard endings  2:12:19  Last words ? | hunting vs gathering vs fishing | "crazy pickup artist guys" | Peter & Brian ask each other out 2:18:27  Bonus Track: kick out th jams two times, or a tribute to love's long back end