The traditional surrogacy match system isn’t working. Whether you’re with an agency or searching independently, most intended parents are unknowingly set up to fail—or settle.
From long waitlists and lack of transparency to mismatches and hidden costs, Alyssa breaks down the outdated dynamics inside both agency and independent paths. She shares why how you find a surrogate matters just as much as who you match with—and introduces a better way forward through the BloomBridge platform.
What You’ll Learn:
00:00 — Why online matching groups can be risky
01:46 — The two ways to find a surrogate (agency vs independent)
03:29 — Why agencies feel “safe” but aren’t always regulated
05:20 — Alyssa’s personal journey comparing 20+ agencies
06:02 — The tool she created to simplify agency research
07:41 — What really happens when agencies “match” you
09:18 — What independent matching is (and isn’t)
11:11 — How Alyssa matched in 8 weeks vs a 2-year agency quote
12:06 — The truth about disqualified surrogates in online spaces
13:55 — The emotional cost of the traditional match process
15:20 — Why most intended parents are worn down before they match
16:14 — What BloomBridge is doing differently to fix the system
17:46 — What “the right match” really means for your journey
18:23 — Recap of key takeaways and tools you can use right now
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Key Takeaways:
The match process is outdated, slow, and often lacks transparency
Agencies vary wildly—there’s no regulation and little accountability
Independent matching can work—but only with strategy and vetting tools
Most intended parents are stuck in a system that drains their energy
BloomBridge makes surrogates visible, organized, and accessible—finally
If you’ve been spinning your wheels with agencies or burned out by online matching groups, it’s time to take control. ✨ Download the BloomBridge app to start seeing real surrogate options and make informed, empowered decisions from day one.
“The system isn’t broken—it’s just outdated. You deserve more than hoping and waiting. You deserve to choose.”
