Surrogacy is an exciting and emotional journey—but it’s also complex and full of potential pitfalls. From choosing the cheapest option to rushing into the first match, there are mistakes that could cost you more than just money—they could cost you time, peace of mind, and years of waiting.
In this episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne breaks down 5 common surrogacy mistakes that can derail your plans. She shares insights from her own surrogacy journey and practical advice for avoiding these mistakes, ensuring your journey stays smooth, supported, and on track.
🎧 If you’re feeling overwhelmed by surrogacy options or unsure how to start, this episode is your guide to avoiding the biggest missteps.
What You’ll Learn:
01:40 — The hidden dangers of choosing the cheapest surrogacy option
03:12 — Why all surrogacy agencies are NOT the same
05:10 — How to ensure your surrogate shares your core values (and why this matters)
07:14 — Why rushing to match can hurt you more than help you
09:00 — The real cost of relying on online forums instead of expert advice
11:24 — How to assess agencies and surrogates with a clear, informed mindset
13:30 — How doing it right the first time saves you stress, time, and money
15:02 — The personal story behind Alyssa’s own mistake and what she learned
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Key Takeaways:
Cutting corners on surrogacy can cost you years of time and emotional energy
Agencies are not one-size-fits-all—invest time to find the right fit
Clear communication, matched values, and solid preparation can save you money
Don’t rely on online forums or incomplete advice—use expert support for peace of mind
Already feeling like you’ve made some of these mistakes? It’s not too late to course-correct! Download our Surrogate Vetting Essentials Guide and get expert tools to set yourself up for a smoother, less stressful surrogacy journey.
“Surrogacy doesn’t have to be a maze. The more informed you are, the smoother your journey will be.”
