“Everything they praise you for: calmness, patience, strength might just be your trauma mask.”
You weren’t born bland. You became that way to survive.
In Part 2 of this powerful series, we go straight into the traits you’ve been applauded for and expose how they’ve kept you stuck in silence, disconnection, and performance.
HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
- Why “your personality is not your truth, it’s your survival”
- How praise for being calm, kind, or strong often masks suppressed rage, grief, or fear
- Why shutting up and putting up is a spiritual compromise, not a virtue
- What perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overachieving are really protecting you from
- How trauma reshapes the nervous system, creates physical symptoms, and makes you doubt your intuition
YOUR ACTIONABLE INSIGHTS:
- Recognise the trauma mask: Calmness can be shutdown. Kindness can be co-dependency.
- Trace the root: Ask yourself, who needed me to be small so they could be okay?
- Let your body speak: Skin issues, back pain, tight hips, adrenal crashes — your body remembers what your mind denies.
- Break the performance cycle: You're not here to be the good girl, peacekeeper, or performing monkey.
REFLECTION PROMPTS:
- What parts of your personality have been shaped by fear, being silenced, or survival?
- What parts of you have never had permission to be loud, raw, or fully alive?
REMEMBER THIS:
“Perfectionism isn’t a personality it’s a trauma response.”
AND SO THE WORK CONTINUES:
This is the real root work. The dismantling. The remembering.
It’s what we do inside The Journey Home membership.
If this spoke to you, you already know where you belong.
NEXT UP:
In Part 3, we go into the first real step to coming home to yourself.
Much love Sunita x
