In this episode of the Success Fundamentals, Kris, Brian, and guest Seth J. Gillihan, PhD talk about self sabotage and the ways that it can be overcome. Seth, a licensed psychologist with training in cognitive behavioral therapy, talks about being mindful of these self sabotaging behaviors, setting better goals, and training yourself to be comfortable with change. HIGHLIGHTS Tell-tale signs of self sabotage Fixed vs growth mindset Self sabotaging behavior is often unconscious Ways to overcome self sabotage Tie yourself to a purpose, not a fixed goal Mentally healthy people are able to adjust to change A case study on affirmations On CBT, Mindfulness, and Stoicism QUOTES Seth: "If our happiness is based on pursuit, that dopamine drive of more, more, more, then we might know unconsciously that if I ever get there, then it's over. Because then, you know, I've got the mansion, I've got the whatever and I still feel empty inside. And that can be a reason to not reach it, like just got to keep climbing." Seth: "I used to think of CBT and mindfulness as just that, CBT plus mindfulness. But now, I've really thought of it as mindful awareness, mindful presence, is the context in which we work on our thoughts and our actions." Seth: "Reality is just reality, but so often we are fighting against it. We're saying things shouldn't be this way, I don't like this, and pushing things away instead of jus saying like, this is the way things are, let me receive that as a starting point and then I can respond adaptively to it." Seth: That helps so much with that idea of reacting flexibly to demands because I'm not locked in to one way of doing things. I'm not overly attached to a certain outcome. I'm willing to work with things as they are and to change things. Receiving and accepting doesn't mean that I leave them the way they are. It means that I'm starting from a really healthy understanding that this is reality and let's work from there." Learn more about Seth in the links below: Website: https://sethgillihan.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sethgillihanphd/ Podcast: https://sethgillihan.com/podcasts/ Online courses: https://sethgillihan.com/online-courses/ App: https://www.enjoybloom.com/ Follow Success Fundamentals on the following links below: Website: https://www.successfundamentals.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4XCvuwxnFi5_7C6Ncm12xQ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/success-fundamentals™ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/successfundamentalspodcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/successfundamentalspodcast