I used to believe independence was the highest form of success. I used to feel that my emotional, physical, and financial needs felt like a burden to others yet too much for me to handle by myself. Now, I see things differently.
Whether you're the eldest daughter and are driven to do it all by yourself while silently suffocating from the pressure, or you're a creative honing your craft while living with your parents- this episode is for you.
(00:00) intro & solo travel self-reflections
(02:33) rethinking independence
(03:43) independence as the ticket to being good
(04.37) chasing "goodness"
(09:40) what self-reliance is and is not
(10:40) believing you are more valuable if you don't have needs
(19:40) knowing your needs and wants
(23:46) intentional crowd-sourcing
(25:27) knowing your capacity
(31:10) paradox tolerance
(35:10) knowing your strengths & lean in
(41:13) trusting things are figureoutable
(42:31) fear holds you back when you don't admit them
(50:35) fears I'm working through
(53:24) your intention for your life supersedes that of anyone else's
(54:24) free will
(57:58) independence exists within community
(01:13:05) rely on your character, not what you have
Episode Mentioned: Listen to Episode 91. why you need to prioritize joy & pleasure in the present here
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"Trust that life loves you enough to break your heart if that means saving your soul" - Brianna Weist
If you’ve ever stayed silent to “keep the peace,” over-explained your needs, or felt like love always slips through your fingers—this episode is for you.
In this no-fluff conversation, I’m sharing the relationship advice most people won’t tell you—because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. But I’d rather tell you the truth than let you stay stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and heartbreak.
(01:48) wanting to be seen authentically
(04:54) the ultimatium, the materialists, and how relationship advice changes as society changes
(10:21) people pleasing always backfries
(14:20) the karpman drama triangle
(15:29) how people pleasers become the bad guy
(18:36) not wanting to hurt someone vs. honest communication
(22:19) people pleasing is keeping you from being loved
(24:14) perfection is not required to be loved, but authenticity is
(26:05) transitioning out of people pleasing by speaking out your fears and anxiety
(30:49) the hardest people to love are the people who do not love themselves
(34:25) deciding the intention for being in a relationship
(36:49) why you're at risk of sabotaging a healthy relationship
(40:37) doing the work to see your inherent value
(44:54) people don't need to be tested, but they do need to be vetted
(48:55) sharing you trauma responsibly
(49:29) being transparent vs. being vulnerable
(55:24) be honest about where you're making decisions from
(59:41) when you get what you want, can you keep it?
(1:03:22) why we lie to ourselves
(1:08:27) discernment, detachment, and devotion
(1:12:04) rewiring relationship trauma through hypnotherapy
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Are you feeling burned out, scattered, or like you’re “crashing out” of alignment with who you truly are?
In this episode of The Soul Whispers Podcast, I unpack what “crashing out” really means and how to anchor into deeper presence—especially during powerful energetic shifts like the Pluto in Aquarius, Uranus square Mars, and Saturn in Aries. While I’m not a professional astrologer, as a Projector and intuitive guide, I read the energy and help you work with it—not against it.
Whether you’re navigating a personal crossroads or simply feeling overwhelmed, this episode will help you reconnect to the sweet spot between peace and purpose—so you can move forward with trust, clarity, and energy that’s truly your own.
(00:00) what does "crashing out" mean?
(01:44) age of aquarius
(04:17) i'm a projector, not as astrologer
(05:18) uranus square mars
(08:09) saturn in aries
(09:27) free will + divine support
(12:38) working with entropy
(13:58) crashing out & locking in
(15:40) using my VVV framework to find your self
(21:13) choosing peace vs purpose
(23:48) the sweet spot of peace & purpose
(25:40) prioritizing peace (value your energy)
(30:59) prioritizing your purpose (fulfill your potential)
(37:32) summer solstice energy reading
Mentioned Links:
🎧 Episode 116: 6 Essential Life Skills Tarot Teaches You: https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/DUEWdxmg5Tb
🎧 Episode 101: Virtues, Values, Visions Core Life Philosophy: https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/g7J5MAUwmUb
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Tarot isn’t for fortune telling — it’s a tool to come home to yourself and one of the most honest mirrors for what's going on in your energy field. In this episode of The Soul Whisperer, I’m breaking down 6 essential life skills that Tarot teaches you — from curiosity and self-trust to decisiveness and intuitive action.
If you’ve ever felt misunderstood for your spiritual path, feared coming out of the “broom closet,” or questioned whether you can trust your inner knowing… this episode is for you.
(01:34) tarot is misunderstood(03:54) essential life skills tarot teaches you(06:17) how to have confidence in yourself(06:56) coming out of the broom closet(08:34) you're not responsible for other people's ignorance(11:46) skill #1: curiosity & owning your desires(14:01) skill #2: self-reflection & asking good questions(15:54) how i help seekers ask better questions(17:52) bad questions to ask tarot(18:31) don't outsource your authority to the cards(19:44) story time: when i applied to be a tarot reader at a shop(21:33) skill #3: taking responsibility & self-accountability(22:41) act like a scientist & run experiments(24:56) skill #4: decisiveness & not fear the unknown(28:32) why you don't have to be afraid of tarot(30:03) skill #5: trust your self & stay in your power(30:45) creating a communication channel to the divine(31:43) interpreting signs & symbols(33:42) skill #6: sharpen intuition & take bold action(36:09) live tarot workshop on 6/15(37:41) thank you for your support!
Get on the waitlist for my upcoming course, Tarot for Practical Living here!
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Why do so many high achievers secretly feel anxious, lost, or unfulfilled—no matter how much they succeed?
In this episode of The Soul Whisperer, we explore how anxiety, perfectionism, and the need for control are often symptoms of a deeper spiritual illness—what Eastern traditions call the “Hungry Ghost.”
From childhood trauma to people-pleasing, we unpack how your intuition communicates through your body (and illness), and why true peace doesn’t come from achieving more—but from coming home to yourself.
This episode is definitely a nod towards the Asian Americans and children of immigrants communities navigating generational trauma, identity distortion, and the inner war between survival and authenticity.
We cover:
– How fear-based mindsets create chronic anxiety
– 3D vs. 5D safety and consciousness
– Manifestation vs. self-abandonment
– The deeper purpose of your anxiety & perfectionism
– Autoimmune illness & intuitive blocks
– Why you must stop chasing an image of peace
– The fear of being “average” & the trap of Hungry Ghost energy
Whether you’re an empath, overthinker, or high performer constantly pushing yourself—this episode will help you soften into your truth, heal the inner child who had to hustle to feel safe, and reclaim your energy.
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(00:00) asian mental health
(01:37) why you need to be in control (F.E.A.R.)
(04:25) where does fear come from?
(05:00) living in your mind vs. your body
(06:18) how to create 3D safety through 5D consciousness
(06:53) access higher consciousness through the body
(08:39) the purpose of the 4D mind
(10:09) anxiety is a fear based mindset
(12:35) accessing intuition through your body
(13:16) why you'll manifest illness when your intuition wants to get your attention
(14:02) client story: autoimmune disease linked to childhood trauma
(14:56) what happens subconsciously when you feel the need to protect yourself
(18:02) identity distortion leads to goal fixation
(19:08) how to move past anxiety and perfectionism
(20:20) stop chasing a specific vision of peace
(22:19) how i discovered i didn't like hiking
(26:11) find your energetic micro-leaks
(27:17) the fear of being average
(27:51) hungry ghosts & negative entities
(30:43) the power of belief
(32:55) when you stop fearing death, you will feel liberated
(34:11) harsh truth about hard work & discomfort
What if your depression isn’t just a chemical imbalance—but a spiritual illness that’s been ignored, suppressed, or misunderstood?
In episode 114 of The Soul Whisperer podcast, I uncover the deeper energetic causes of depression—like self-rejection, creative suppression, unspoken desires, and blocked chakras (especially the sacral, heart, and throat).
You’ll learn how empathic and intuitive people often carry pain that doesn’t belong to them, and why healing your soul is essential for lasting mental and emotional freedom.✨
Whether you're feeling uninspired, disconnected, or stuck in old patterns, this conversation is a call to reclaim your vitality, reconnect with purpose, and liberate your voice.
💡 I also share stories from my clients, insights from hypnotherapy, and how tools like shadow work and self-hypnosis can create deep and lasting change.
(00:00) Spiritual illness manifests as mental illness
(00:57) Depression is not caused by neurochemical imbalance
(02:10) Creative suppression causes depression
(04:58) How I reignited my creative spark through Substack
(06:26) Allowing yourself to feel inspired
(08:26) Feeling like a burden & suicidal thoughts
(10:46) Sacral, heart, and throat chakra blocks
(14:26) Unblock your throat with affirmations
(17:21) Being self-aware vs. self-conscious
(20:32) Shadow work with my hypnotherapy clients
(24:33) Why wounded people have big money goals
(27:46) 3 reasons your subconscious holds onto depression
(33:47) Integration through self-hypnosis & deep energetic work
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What if you could keep the wisdom of your trauma—without carrying the pain?
In this episode of The Soul Whisperer, Jen breaks down how hypnotherapy works on the subconscious level to reprogram beliefs, shift patterns, and release trauma without needing to relive it. She shares why AAPI folks struggle to let go of patterns created by trauma, why intelligent people often get stuck in therapy, and why mindset work isn’t enough.
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(00:15) does trauma make you who you are?(01:08) what if you could keep the lessons of trauma but remove the pain?(03:24) i was skeptical of hypnotherapy(03:47) why intelligent people get stuck in therapy(04:59) hypnotherapy effectively integrates information(05:12) making the familiar unfamiliar, and the unfamiliar familiar(06:11) why money, relationships, and being healthy feel hard(08:51) why working on your mindset isn't enough to change(09:14) your brain works through repetition & it does what you tell it to do(09:33) why you don't trust people(10:25) how I learned to feel safe around men post S.A.(11:12) releasing the emotional load of trauma without changing the facts(11:33) what hypnotherapy is(12:04) a feeling that is buried alive never dies(13:00) client case study: test anxiety(14:05) if you want to experience hypnotherapy(14:48) why saying, "don't do this" doesn't work
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April is PMDD Awareness Month—and if you've ever felt like you're riding an emotional rollercoaster before your period, this episode is for you.
We dive into:
(00:48) Why PMDD is more than "bad PMD"
(03:00) The 4 phases of the menstrual cycle and how they impact your emotions, energy, and mental health
(05:12) PMDD as an “allergic reaction” to your own hormonal shifts
(06:37) My personal experience using an IUD for PMDD & being birth control free for years
(09:05) How to track your symptoms and start healing without medication
(10:46) How “mysterious” disorders like PMDD are linked to trauma
(12:36) A peek into my Energy Management for PMDD Masterclass (and how it works)
(14:14) Why this class can literally save your life if you're struggling
(15:14) How PMDD is a portal into what’s not working in your life
(17:22) Why a good diagnosis is the key to effective treatment
This episode blends cycle syncing knowledge and my personal experience navigating PMDD, so you can understand your cycle from an empowering lens.
Tune in to reclaim your rhythm, trust your body, and start healing from the inside out.
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Celebrating episode 111 with a raw convo on why you need to lead with your strengths rather than keep wasting time trying to fix your weaknesses. Learn about my 2025 theme and listen into my reflections on everything from my podcast, to dating, to how tarot has changed my business.
(00:00) podcast reflections and failures
(03:53) what gets in the way of authenticity
(07:41) constriction helping vs hindering creativity
(10:36) navigating the internal noise in dating
(14:31) experimentation & my 1/3 human design
(16:33) discerning discomfort from being out of integrity
(20:43) fixing weaknesses vs. leading with your strength
(23:52) your strengths lead you to your purpose and your people
(28:57) navigating my own resistance to ease in my business
(32:29) my in-person intensives
(35:00) marketing with my weaknesses vs strengths
(37:27) my 2025 theme: lean in, let go, full send
(40:19) making bingo cards for 2025
(44:44) final remarks
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If you're trying to "find your purpose" and live an intentional, impactful, and fulfilling life- but haven't found that *thing* just yet- then listen to this. I found a new way to think about my Virtues, Values, Visions framework to open your perspective on how to think about purpose, connect with the value you bring to the world, and maybe even understand what your true purpose is!
(0:00) centering in your power
(1:30) choosing your priorities
(4:36) channeling your purpose
(7:09) untangling work & purpose to find fulfillment
(9:38) purpose doesn't look a certain way (+pmdd story)
(16:14) living your purpose
Wondering if you're on the right path? want a new way to look at things? or just flat out, don't want to figure it all out on your own?
book a soul whispering session with me here and I'll guide you through the noise of your inner world: https://www.jencui.com/card-readings#book-now
In this episode of The Soul Whisperer Podcast, I sit down with my friend Hunter Ventura for an open-hearted conversation about navigating life's cycles, intuitive music, and personal growth. We explore the art of commitment and letting go, consult the wisdom of tarot, and how Human Design shapes our decision-making. From dealing with rumination to cultivating secure attachment, this episode is a deep dive into embracing change, honoring our desires, and finding freedom in life's transitions. Tune in for an insightful and soul-nourishing discussion!
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(00:00) being a beginner again
(02:28) meet Hunter Ventura
(05:49) hunter's journey to intuitive music playing
(07:47) hunter's 2024 recap
(10:36) commitment & letting go
(15:36) tarot for hunter
(19:13) choices, priorities, and desires
(24:22) rising to responsibility
(32:02) constant change & freedom
(35:19) earth snake energy
(44:09) being content vs wanting more
(56:43) aligning with hunter's human design
(1:00:37) emotional authority & generator energy type
(1:02:29) 5/1 profile(1:06:51) right facing variables
(1:10:43) keeping things open ended
(1:13:31) left angle cross of cycles
(1:18:36) deciding the end of cycles
(1:29:17) dealing with rumination
(1:33:10) making something a non-problem
(1:36:32) becoming securely attached
(1:42:17) final card pull
(1:43:39) closing connection
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LA is on fire and I'm maintaining my sense of normalcy through my favorite thing- having good conversation with good people. In this episode, I’m joined by my high school best friend, Melissa, as we dive deep into the transformative energies of 2025. Together, we explore the collective themes for the year and share personal energy readings, including a relationship forecast for us both, as well as my upcoming Saturn return, and Melissa's unique career and life guidance.
We start with a brief discussion on the current LA fires, their impact, and resources for those affected. For official information and assistance, check out the California government’s page (ca.gov).
P.S. I apologize for the sound of the pool in the background running the whole time, I didn't realize how loud it was until I started editing! We covered a lot in this video though, and this reading is truly packed with so much valuable insights to help you navigate the year ahead, so I decided to move forward with it anyways.
Whether you’re curious about personal growth, relationships, or alignment with your purpose, you'll get exactly what you need out of this.
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(00:00) intro
(02:07) LA fires debrief
(06:58) collective “9” year & strength
(09:30) survival mode is not a bad thing
(11:06) 4 of cups: new pathways
(14:34) 6 of cups: giving & receiving
(17:49) 3 of swords: let go
(20:41) how i stopped blaming my mom
(22:24) why high achievers get stuck
(25:22) 5 of wands:conflict & priorities
(29:00) benefits of staying in alignment in 2025
(31:57) summary of the collective reading
(34:51) Mel’s 2025 relationship reading
(40:17) curiosity blooming into passion
(44:36) the case for dating multiple people
(51:00) Mel’s career guidance
(54:26) upheaval vs setting roots
(58:51) being an emotional leader
(1:0033) Jen’s 2025 relationship reading
(1:06:22) Discerning fear from intuition
(1:08:54) my human figure-it-out-mode
(1:10:36) Mel pulls cards for Jen
(1:14:07) how to set a new baseline for happiness
(1:17:20) Mel’s thoughts on Jen’s reading
(1:19:32) Final thoughts on the year ahead
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Want to create a conscious, healthy, secure romantic relationship? You're in the right place.
In this episode of the Soul Whispers Podcast, I take you on a dive deep into the dynamics of conscious adult romantic relationships and learnings from my personal experiences. Learn how to cultivate self-regulation and self-trust, understand why trying to heal your partner may backfire, and discover the energetics of creating a safe and secure relationship. We explore essential skills such as conflict resolution, trauma-aware communication, and overcoming common pitfalls like criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.
(01:30) Tune into your body’s intuition for better discernment.
(09:00) Explore a new perspective on romantic relationships.
(16:39) Strengthen your connection to personal power.
(18:14) Understand polarity and how to pursue and choose your partner.
(25:34) Lay the foundations for a healthy relationship with matching virtues
(32:22) Build with complimentary values.
(36:49) Align your vision and why it matters.
(43:03) Dangers of misalignment and how to resolve conflicts.
(47:13) Identify and correct the 4 horsemen of relationships: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.
(01:06:16) Men’s role in creating safety for women and building understanding for each other.
(01:17:46) Implement “State of the Union” check-ins for ongoing relationship health.
(01:22:55) Final notes
Join me as we explore how to build and maintain healthy, aligned, and fulfilling relationships. Whether you're single or in a partnership, these insights will empower you to create the love life you deserve.
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🧿 Partner with Your Privilege: https://jencui.podia.com/partner-with-your-privilege
🧿 The Art of Feeling Your Feelings: https://jencui.podia.com/the-art-of-feeling-your-feelings-emotional-intelligence-masterclass
🧿 Healing The Feminine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-feminine-stop-doing-it-all-reclaim-your-feminine-power
🧿 Healing The Masculine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-masculine-how-to-step-into-modern-day-masculinity
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Welcome to the 106th episode of the Soul Whispers Podcast! Join Jen as she explores how to transform your relationship with dating by taking the pressure off "getting it right" and using dating as a powerful opportunity for self-reflection and growth. This ensures you not only find an aligned partner for yourself, but that the entire dating process is worthwhile for you.
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(02:36) Understand and adopt Jen's dating ideology
(04:50) #1. Avoid taking things personally in dating
(08:40) Embrace the idea that it's okay to not be "good enough" for someone
(09:47) Recognize that everyone in your life is a mirror
(11:41) Bring your shadows to light and grow from them
(15:52) #2. Be your full, authentic self in relationships
(16:50) Use thinking as a tool, not a weapon
(19:55) Know and clarify your intentions in dating
(21:28) Straight men vs women dating behaviors
(26:55) Distinguish between companionship and partnership
(28:25) Discern genuine effort from "trying" energy
(31:24) Embrace differences without fear
(34:09) #3. Have high standards in your relationships
(35:52) Understand why being high maintenance can be beneficial
(38:14) Align with your own standards
(39:18) Not be afraid of narcissists
(40:53) Live with integrity in your relationships
(41:42) Choose higher standards over more boundaries
(44:33) Realize you don't have to be perfect or fully healed to date
(48:02) My dating spreadsheet and the value of having a "list"
(53:31) Tarot for dating clarity and for couples
Join us for this enriching episode that will help you approach dating with confidence, self-awareness, and a sense of growth. Discover how to find an incredible partner who is truly aligned with you.
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Friendships are the greatest anchors in life and it’s the glue that hold communities together. In a society that glorifies independence and pushes individual freedom, yet is breaking down from loneliness and mental health crises— obviously society got it wrong.
In this episode, I share perspectives that will reframe how you go about making friends so you can find genuine people that you align with and contribute to a community you care about.
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(00:00) Intro
(03:11) DON’T try to make friends this way
(08:24) What doesn’t work well
(13:50) Reciprocal versus Transactional Relationships
(21:17) Showing your full self in friendships
(25:27) How to shift your vibration to bring in new people
(27:40) Using Human Design for friendships
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🧿 The Art of Feeling Your Feelings: https://jencui.podia.com/the-art-of-feeling-your-feelings-emotional-intelligence-masterclass
🧿 Healing The Feminine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-feminine-stop-doing-it-all-reclaim-your-feminine-power
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We're tackling family relationships next in the Relationship Series of the Soul Whispers Podcast.
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In this episode, Jen shares her experiences and perspectives on navigating challenging family relationships- especially parental relationships- when there has been trauma and stored pain.
No matter what culture you're from, or whether or not you are a parent yourself, this episode will help you recenter your focus back on your personal healing and see your path to a healthier family dynamic with clarity.
(00:00) Intro
(01:44) Healing from cultural trauma + note on filial piety
(05:00) Stop waiting & take responsibility for your healing
(06:54) Don’t walk on a broken leg
(07:31) It’s a parent’s job to do this
(09:49) How I support my clients in healing
(12:10) How hypnotherapy helped me heal and transform
(16:08) Creating emotional independence
(18:53) Growth in my relationship with my mom & being myself
(24:09) The quality of your relationships come down to these 2 things
(29:20) A note on forgiveness
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SOUL LIBERATING WORKSHOPS 🦋
🧿 Partner with Your Privilege: https://jencui.podia.com/partner-with-your-privilege
🧿 The Art of Feeling Your Feelings: https://jencui.podia.com/the-art-of-feeling-your-feelings-emotional-intelligence-masterclass
🧿 Healing The Feminine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-feminine-stop-doing-it-all-reclaim-your-feminine-power
🧿 Healing The Masculine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-masculine-how-to-step-into-modern-day-masculinity
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Part 2 of 2 to transform your relationship with yourself covers the next crucial component to having a thriving healthy relationship with yourself- using your language intentionally.
In this episode, I cover: ✅ Why "should" statements are hurting you more than you think ✅ What to say instead of "I should" or "I shouldn't" ✅ How to shift your self-talk and the benefits you'll notice from it ✅ Where the "shoulds" came from and how to let them go
(00:00) intro
(01:55) tarot message: 11. Justice
(03:14) ice cream paradigm shift
(08:43) what aligned celebration looks like
(11:40) 3 ways to reprogram "should" statements
(13:24) "should" audit
(14:51) why "should" is so toxic
(18:37) your feelings tell the truth
(22:47) turning point in business happiness
(27:21) bonus vs. winning results
(28:59) as above, so below
(29:44) it's not your fault
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🧿 Healing The Feminine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-feminine-stop-doing-it-all-reclaim-your-feminine-power
🧿 Healing The Masculine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-masculine-how-to-step-into-modern-day-masculinity
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This is part 1 of 2 to transform your relationship with yourself.
We dive deep into how shame is the biggest killer for self love, and the reason why you feel blocked from experiencing inner peace, true self confidence, and excitement in life.
Some stories I share?
What it was like to have disordered eating habits and body image issues
How un-shamed myself starting with my body
The journey to un-shaming my relationship with love, money, and life itself
Discovering my subconscious belief that, "I am a burden" and how I completely transformed it
What I've learned from my personal journey over the years & working with hundreds of clients 1:1 that has always worked in reducing self-shame, and creating more self-love
(01:33) having a relationship with yourself
(02:44) what creates suffering
(05:16) 2 factors that determine the quality of your relationship with yourself
(06:45) inner peace vs shame
(09:52) what to do with shame
(11:40) how I work with my clients
(14:40) shame and self-esteem
(18:32) breaking down your relationship with yourself
(20:47) using excitement and virtues to create change
(29:36) when healthy change feels cringy
(31:21) the work to release guilt
(37:41) how to stop feeling like a burden
(44:56) replacing shame as a motivator
This episode is designed to help you:
I’m your host, Jen Cui, a soul whisperer, certified life coach, hypnotherapist, and spiritual guide. Join me in this powerful conversation as we explore the path to self-love and acceptance. Let's break free from the chains of shame and step into a life filled with joy, purpose, and self-empowerment.
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Welcome to the 101st episode of the Soul Whispers Podcast! I’m your host, Jen Cui, a soul whisperer, certified life coach, hypnotherapist, and spiritual guide.
We're kicking off season 2 (all about relationships!) on June 20th, the summer solstice, and to open up the season I delve deep into my core life philosophy centered around virtues, values, and vision.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
The Philosophy I Live and Coach By: Discover the foundational principles that guide my life and coaching practice.
Deconditioning from Society's Norms: Learn how to break free from societal expectations and think independently about your life's purpose.
Personal Anecdotes: I'll share my journey to becoming vegan and how it embodies the essence of knowing your virtues, determining your values, and letting go of control to allow your life's vision to unfold naturally.
(00:00) introduction & background info
(06:10) my core life philosophy
(10:01) how we're conditioned to think about life
(19:06) getting to know your virtues
(24:35) how to think about virtues, values, and visions
(33:07) my vegan story: an application of my philosophy
(40:54) attachment to your virtues & detachment to the vision
(44:43) the importance of flexibility in life
This podcast and every episode within it is designed with the intention to guide you to:
Join me in this important conversation as we explore how embracing your virtues, values, and vision can transform your life.
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*TRIGGER WARNING* suicide, life ending thoughts, sexual assault, disordered eating habits and explicit mentions of weight and dieting, and abusive relationships
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In the 100th episode of The Soul Whispers podcast, I'm sharing my story in depth from where I am now so you can understand the ground in which my perspectives, beliefs, and ideas have been sowed in, plowed through, replanted, and grown in.
This episode is broken down into different pieces of my life and is laced with many deep insights I have on life, how we can look at mental health and suicidal ideation from a spiritual perspective to heal the root cause, and my truths that are foundational to why I do what I do. As always, I'm looking forward to hear what you resonate with, what takeaways you have, and how these perspectives impact you.
*DISCLAIMER* I am NOT a licensed psychologist, therapist, or doctor and what I share with you is not intended to be prescriptive or medical advice- do NOT go off medication, stop seeing a therapist or doctor, “because of me” with this- like any piece of content- consume responsibly and apply what you see fit from a sovereign and self-empowered place.
(00:00) intro
(04:07) intentions of sharing & disclaimers
(07:08) new life updates & announcements
(15:17) childhood, conditioning, and intuition
(29:45) depression, suicidal ideation, and turning points
(48:43) feeling called to coach
(54:19) hypnotherapy, tarot, and authenticity
(01:07:03) final oracle card messages
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