This episode is proudly sponsored by Jodie's group, Trauma Warriors™.  In Not My Closet: How Betrayal Trauma Impacts Self & Body Image, Karen Bieman talks to us about betrayal trauma and the impact this has on the sense of self and body image of straight and non-trans partners in relationships with a closeted lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender person. In Not My Closet: How Betrayal Trauma Impacts Self & Body Image, Karen also talks about: What brought Karen to this work Karen’s relationship song When Karen’s husband told her the truth about being gay Why Karen’s life felt like a lie Karen’s life work Disenfranchised grief Why the betrayed partner is often silenced Why you should never say ‘at least…’ Brene Brown Empathy versus sympathy What are the types of betrayal trauma relationships? Lies, deception and betrayal Why the betrayed partner feels confused, used and angry Shame, silence and betrayal Homophobia and collateral damage Conversion therapy and other solutions What is intentional monogamy? What happens to most couples? Mutual respect is the ultimate goal Gaslighting and betrayal trauma Existential crisis and coming out The impact on the children The impact of the betrayal on the straight or non-trans partner The impact on the straight and non-trans partner’s body image Shame and body image Using food, disgust as a coping mechanism Yo-yo dieting and weight cycling is disordered eating Dieting is an attempt to fix something that has never been broken (Jodie’s article) Object relations and primary attachment injuries Post-traumatic growth – what is the symptom calling for us to awakening to? Value, meaning and purpose Anger and recovery Fierce self-compassion - Kristen Neff Self-sabotage versus self-love Dating again and trust Relational healing, therapy and support groups Individual and couples counselling   For the show notes, go to: https://www.thesoulcentre.online/not-my-closet/