“People will never outperform the opinion they have of themselves.” - Peter Sage
In this episode, Dr. Jamal has a powerful conversation with Matt Paetz on how attachments, perceptions and the comfort zone tie into identity. The process of what is happening when we’re making decision and crafting boundaries was also highlighted. This was an important topic because when we choose ourselves and begin to act differently, others can put up resistance. This episode decodes what to do about it.
02:00 | Watch full show on spotify/youtube*
04:30 | Understanding the comfort zone. Your boundaries are not other people’s punishments**
It disrupts the Rhythms of how we’re interacting. Our relationships change due to us changing. If you change, it challenges them and it can feel like conflict.
8:10 | You doing making a decision that makes someone uncomfortable does not make it inappropriate
Developing a relationship with discomfort
10:00 | 5 Signs of Life* and the 6th one
11:30 | Life recognizes life**
14:45 | The concept of functional suffering.
16:30 | Depression is nothing more than denied expression
17:30 | Growth and adding value to another. It has a space
19:30 | Expressing self authentically
20:30 | Self-trust is a skill**
22:00 - Your emotions won’t kill you.
24:00 | 3 aspects to a trigger***
The event itself
The meaning (interpretation)
Response
27:00 | Unconsciously protecting the identity and perceptions we’re efforting to protect. **
“As long as I am in struggle, I am in connection.” 28:45
30:00 | Your change of behavior is a direct threat to my response
32:45 | The power of one person believing in you*
Ideal is picking things up right where we left off
37:45 | You don’t get into psychology because you have your shit together
40:45 | A previous identity.
44:00 | Pain + Passion x Safety = service**
Extract the lessons + Things you want to do X
47:45 | How would you define safety?* vs. comfortable
Being among others where you feel understood and be in a relaxed physiology*
50:00 | Committed to a joined future vs. previous past
51:45 | Building a relationship with trauma vs. just getting lost
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