You can see it before they even open their mouth—the posture, the tone, the energy. They walked into the room looking for a target, and it’s you. The first jab comes disguised as a “question.” The second is sharper. By the third, everyone knows this isn’t about clarity—it’s about control. Now the room is tense, all eyes are on you, and the real work is stalled because one person decided today was the day to pick a fight. This isn’t random. People who gun for fights in public are angling for power. They want to rattle you, expose a crack, and prove to everyone else that you can be knocked off balance. And if you take the bait—if you match their energy or try to “win” the fight—you’ve already lost. The room will remember the clash, not the clarity. In this episode, I’ll show you how to defuse the attack without losing authority. You’ll learn the exact language and moves that shut down the fight before it escalates, while making it crystal clear who actually holds command of the room. Because leadership isn’t about trading punches. It’s about keeping control when others try to start a war.
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