We've hit 30 episodes!
I'm so grateful to every single one of you who has tuned in, shared feedback, or sent me a DM about how this podcast has landed with you. It's what keeps me going, and I’m so excited to bring you this next heart-opening conversation.
In this episode, I’m joined by Phoebe Rogers, a Clinical Psychologist, Couples Therapist, and author of “When Will It Happen for Me?” a book written especially for single women seeking healthy love. Her message is simple yet powerful: To find the relationship you truly deserve, the one that feels safe, mutual, and aligned, you have to start with the one you have with yourself.
This conversation is deep, validating, and full of practical takeaways for any single woman who is tired of being told she’s “too much” or “not enough.”
Together, we dive into:
- What Schema Therapy is and how it helps uncover the patterns and wounds from childhood that shape adult relationships.
- How your inner child might be influencing your dating experiences today.
- What to do when you're stuck blaming your parents (and how to move forward with compassion)
- A beautiful visualisation tool to reparent your younger self and help her feel safe and seen.
- A moment I share where I checked in with “Little V” during a trigger and how I supported myself.
- Why the games and tricks to “win” a man just don’t work long-term.
- Her own story of heartbreak, healing, and why she felt called to write this book, because she believes she’s cracked the code.
- The difference between doing the inner and the outer work in your self-love journey.
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